Hey guys, fairly new here. I've browsed over the forum unregistered for a while now. Thought now was a good time to make a first post.

I work with this girl that I'm very much interested in. I had a small thing with her towards the end of last year, but not much came of it (only got together a couple times at parties, nothing further than kissing, although it was close to). So anyway, she got a boyfriend soon after that. She's EXTREMELY flirty with me at work, constantly touching me and looking over, so I guessed she was into me.

Anyway - the other day after work we were walking about, and she asked me this question: "Do you think we have sexual tension? The others at work keep saying it's blindingly obvious". I said to her that I didn't know exactly what they meant by it. So anyway I get home, look at my phone and see a text from her linking me to the Wikipedia article on Sexual Tension, and saying how she thinks we definitely have tension between us. Then she asked me if she thinks it will ever go away (does this mean she's asking if we'll ever have sex?), and I just said "Who knows what will happen in the future " to which she said "Nobody knows just don't go getting any better looking".

Now I can't forget the fact she has a boyfriend.. what exactly is she doing? What should my next move be? I feel like I'm getting pretty close.

I mean, if she didn't have a boyfriend I'd be certain she's into me. Maybe she's expecting them to split up?

She's considering/thinking about breaking up with her boyfriend and is looking for/considering future options or available fuck buddies/FWB after.

If you DON'T want this to turn into the girl gaining a bit of ego and just using you to massage her ego then continue with what you're doing, play the game. Don't give her straight answers, your reply of "blahdeblahdeblahblahblah future" was perfect, more stuff like this. She's obviously thinking about you sexually/has had a dream and wants to confirm if you are too. DO NOT CONFIRM THIS TO HER. Her confirmation will be when your dick is fucking her.

She's already confirmed to that there is sexual tension. DO NOT REACT TO THIS. Just ACT the same as you are, increase the tension and she'll be gagging for it. Anyway good luck.

Okay, thanks. I'll try keep it up.

She often wants to do things out of work, and if she were to invite me to hers or something (as she usually does) - should I hold back from making a move until she is single again? Or just go for it?

I posted this in another thread, but I'll post it again.

See I would think that. But the fact she has a boyfriend plants seeds of doubt in my mind.

The fact she has a boyfriend is irrelevant. You can be attracted and/or in love with multiple people.

She is clearly attracted and wants to have sex with you. Keep playing as you play, however invite her over to your place with plausible deniability (i.e help me cook this dish or whatever) to stay congruent to your frame of being vague. Once she gets to yours eat what you cook, drink a little wine, have fun and escalate. One thing led to another...

Isn't that me being an a**hole though? I'd hate to be the guy on the other end.

You're probably right though. Any chance I get I'll try and take it.

Why are you the asshole? She's the idiot in a relationship when she wants to fuck your brains out.

You're right. Thanks a lot! I'll get back on here for the next update.

Thanks again.

If a guy isn't fucking his girl right... That's his problem when she goes somewhere else to get dicked down. Not yours. Its actually not a problem for you at all lol

She's invited me round next week, so I'm going to go. I can imagine she'll bring up the whole tension thing again.. any advice for that? Any particular responses?

Say she asked if it would ever go away again, would saying something like "Well I imagine there is only one way TO get rid of it " be a good thing?

Some people say to not be obvious about it yet sometimes it seems that's what the girl wants to hear. I'm not sure what approach to take.

I think you got it at this stage. Don't try to convince her too much verbally, do that with touching/kino/etc.

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This.

Okay. And one last thing, I'm obviously going to try and make a move. If she says something like "I've got a boyfriend" (though hopefully this wouldn't happen.. considering she seems to want it?) what exactly can I say to that?