So here's the story - sorry for the long post

Her background :
Ukrainian
Studying law - she might drop can't pay tuition
Parents divorced
Lives with mom. Dad is married to someone in Ukraine she didn't know for 3 years
Does not like her mum. Mum wanted her to fuck some dude at her work - weird I know.
Works part time to pay for her food and expenses
Financially unstable

She's a lovely girl. We have a lot in common.

I met this girl last year in la at some restaurant in the am. I was visiting my friends. Randomly had a small chat she gave me her number. We started talking on email. She said no - to call or text message as she cannot afford to pay for her phone bills. She initiated SPAM. We used to SPAM on weekends for 2-3 hrs. message me - i miss you. I want to see you come to cali. Blah blah. Random messages at weird hours. I had a dream about you.
Everything went fine. Then suddenly I got a text message from her saying I like someone just thought you should know. I like being honest. Hope you don't get mad.
I was fucking some girl then so it didn't affect me. I didn't reply. No contact for a month. Then a day before I was going to Boston to meet some other girl. She calls me on SPAM and starts being all nice. That she wants to see me.
I flew her in to New York for a 4 days after i got back from boston. Awesome sex. She got emotional cried one night that she has to leave. She shared a lot about her family and how everything is fucked up in her life. It was kinda depressing. She said she loved me but I didn't

She leaves and tries to avoid. I tried getting in touch with her a couple of times over a weeks period. I mentioned that I was going to Vegas soon and I could drop by for a few days if she's free. She replies that I don't think we should see each other anymore. Don't think by paying you can get whatever you want. You cant sleep with me by Paying. And blah blah that how I'm trying to buy her.

My reply. - first of all honestly the sex was great. Now regarding this, I live in New York it's a city full of beautiful women. Money is not a problem for me and I never thought that I was trying to pay you to get you in bed with me. Some guy has to be really dumb to go see a girl 5000 miles away just for the sake of fucking her. What I would is go out and get a girl back home and forget about you. I've invested my time and feelings in you and that's what all mattered until last night.

She apologized that night. Tried calling me a few times. I was extremely rude to her and deleted all contact

She started seeing someone in less than a month

She wished me on my bday. I did the same

Now I live in Miami and get an email from her today hey how you've been. And asked to me google some kind of South American drink that gives you hallucinations. You'll like it.

I don't do drugs and she knows that. And I never mentioned to her that I'm moving to Miami. We don't have any mutual friends.

I deleted the email and i don't have her number either but the whole thing has triggered in my head now and it's 3 am and I'm thinking about her.

How do I play this ? Any suggestions. Similar experiences ?

Honestly I'm leaning towards not getting back at her.
But some part of me wants to. I don't want it to end up being a case of oneitis as I had it previously with other women

NEXT, she has emotional problems (saying she loves you after not talking to her for a month ) and she likes playing mind games with you(doesn't think you should see each other anymore, then makes contact later). It seems to me like she has some emotional problems and daddy issues, girls with daddy issues are great lays but terrible women to seek anything more with.

IMO she's an emotional wreck and plays stupid petty games.

Ugh. Cut of all contact. This sounds like a total disaster. Sounds like you can do well for yourself without having to deal with this nut job.

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Let her go. I agree with the others that she is some kind of emotional mess. "the olny way to get over it, is the next girl"

She's trying to suck you back in because she's lost control, sounds like a basket case RUN, don't walk, the other way.

Thanks for the replies.

I'm was over her long back. And I deleted her email from Trash too. Just to be safe that I don't reply.

I've been seeing a girl who lives in my building. I mean not dating exactly but we fuck once a week or so. Its very random with her.

The only reason I think about the Cali - looking at her life. She has been through a lot of shit. And i was emotionally in to her other than her looks.

Understandable but you did the right thing, you'll find another chick without all the emotional baggage.

Different people can attach different meanings to a specific situation, resulting in the potential for a vast array of emotional reactions to one situation. For example, consider ten basically similar people who experience the same event,which is having their partner treat them inconsiderately. Potentially, they can have ten (or maybe more) different emotional responses to precisely the same event, depending on how
they think about the event:

@Axilleas - Well Said!