So I keep finding that I am able going up to girls and introducing myself and having a brief conversation with them. I know I am a decent looking guy and I even notice girl kinda checking me out. My problem is that once I am talking to them they seem to get over me when before they were obviously into me. How do you transition from talking to actual flirting and what do you really talk about that can eventually lead to a hookup?

Good Question; I'm in a similar situation so would love to hear what everyone thinks.

Acctually thats intresting, someone please answer

Do some research into negs and how to flirt. My favorites are casually making fun of her to her friends (with a smile on my face): i.e. "is she always like this?" "you can dress her up but you can't take her anywhere." "oh, you're one of THOSE type of people...well now I can't talk to you anymore." These are classics and nothing I came up with.

I also misinterpret what she says. For example, the other night I met this woman and we ended up chatting a bit, and she ended saying "you should see how greasy my hair is in the morning." I just stared at her for a second with a blank, squint-eyed grin and said "well why don't we slow this down a little, I want to get to know you a little more before I'm experiencing your morning hair." She giggled a lot, and grabbed my leg teasingly.

It's certainly a skill. I would recommend memorizing some lines that work in a lot of situations, and the more you practice them the more natural they'll start flowing. Also think back to past conversations you've had with women, and come up with good comebacks to things they've said. This helps me a lot.

I guess I'm alright at that kind of flirting. More what I mean is how do you go from that to more sexually charged, seductive flirting?

The greasy hair come back is fantastic. You could always use the more classic lines such as; "Hey now, what makes you think I'm gonna be experiencing that tomorrow- I don't put out for free, you know! "

Seriously, PROWL these forums. Literally everyone was a beginner once. There will be openers that you'll really connect with.

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From what i understand, kino should be thrown into the mix.

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You fear of not fucking it up. This is why it's very hard to transition from regular talk to flirting. What is your objective for this woman in front of you? A little chat session or to potentially get her in bed? Being that you've mastered getting over the fear of talking to women (congratulations, by the way), you need to master being comfortable flirting. A way to get over this is to say things more boldly and keeping it fun and playful. When you play cat and mouse with a woman, you think, "Does she seriously like me or just humoring me?" Speak with real intent. Don't worry about rejection because getting rejected or not means you're not wasting your time. You are going for what you want. Here's an example:

So, I would say instead of trying to flirt, speak boldly without seeming too desperate. Keep it fun and playful. Don't try to hard, just let it happen. You'll know what to say at the right moment once you shut your thinking off.

You: I see you and I getting along really well, I just met you and it feels like we've been talking for months. Either I have that affect on women or I think I met my equal.
Her: Ha Ha Ha, Oh really?
You: Yup, which one do you think?
Her: Actually, I think I have that affect on you. I see you gazing into my eyes looking all star struck.
You: Oh, I wasn't gazing, I just noticed you have a clump of eye-liner in the corner of your eye.
Her: Are you serious? Which eye? (she takes out a mirror)
You: I guess I have that affect on you. Trying so hard to look perfect for me. I was just joking about the eye-liner by the way.
Her: (giggles) You're trouble.
You: I knoooow... I'mmm baaad. Listen, why don't we get out of here and grab something to eat. I'm really enjoying your company and "Gazing into your eyes" (said sarcastically)
Her: Okay, let me get my purse.

I'm not saying it's gonna flow smoothly like this, but when you speak boldly and keep it fun, your mind comes up with some clever shit. Guys want to flirt and have her open her legs saying, "You said the magic words. Come fuck me!" Unless she is horny or a super slut, it's gonna take a little more than just a few words to make her open her legs for you. You already have the charisma, you just don't know it because you're thinking too much. You worry too much about what she'll think instead of saying what's on your mind and finding out what she thinks after you've spoken. Once you let go, flirting will become effortless!

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THIS.

Kino. Touch her. Make it clear once you have her attention and she seems into you that you are talking to her to get with her, not to try on bras together.

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Tease her in a playful, fun way. Don't be a fucking dick... But as said, don't be afraid that you are going to "lose her."

Whatever you say, make sure you are saying it for your own self amusement. Don't be seeking a reaction to anything you say. You are just saying whatever fun, shit comes to your mind..

It's called "banter." It's just a way of having fun while you are teasing her. Make sure you are smiling when you say it so she knows that you are not being serious.

A couple of things you want to avoid when using banter....

1. Using banter when trying to break rapport and building comfort. The last thing you want to do is ask her what her dreams are and what she is passionate about, she tells you, and you make her feel like a dumb ass by using banter! You don't ever want her to open up to you and then tease her for it.

2. Not smiling. You don’t want to just tease her and not have a smile on your face. You want to show her that this is FUN. If you say ignorant shit seriously and don't smile... She will just think you are an asshole.

3. Moving to breaking rapport too quickly. When you move too quickly into building comfort you are displaying too much interest, you’ll lose her. Make her WORK FOR YOU. Keep the conversation light and fun until you get her comfortable and engaged. When you have her hooked in the interaction, then you can go into building rapport.

Getting good at this really comes from practice.

I think the biggest thing with flirting is to enjoy yourself. I think sometimes we get too worried about saying things for the sake of the girl, when we would be better focussing on ourselves more. Just enjoy your own company and she can come along for the ride. Don't be a dick about it, so don't just slag her off, but if you're saying playful teasy type things to "wind her up" a bit in a playful way, then that's usually a good place to start.

As for making it more sexual, there are a number of ways. Some go for the more "shock and awe" type strategies, wherein you maybe say something overly sexual and then joke it off, some will say drop in sexual innuendo, others will say just talk about sex as if it's any other conversation topic. I think you always need to focus on the body language, the "kino" is important (check out some of the compliance ladders dotted around this site/online) so you're touching the girl - touch is very important in making the interaction sexual.

Then my preferred method is to drop a few sexual innuendos in/make the conversation more sexual in tone. By 'innuendo' I don't mean saying obvious things like "that's what she said", I mean just sort of saying things knowingly with a slight sexual smile on your face, as if you know that you'll be fucking her later and you're just dropping a few sexual hints in to the conversation now to get her excited for later.

Flirt with your body language. yes you have to be confident. You have I have the mindset that it doesn't matter if you get her number or not because either eh you'll still be happy. As for low or high energy, I'd just say be you if your more comfortable now talking ask much do that but practice on a low slow tone . I myself mix up the two I'm high energy like to meet people and have a good time, but when I first walk into a place , I walk in like I own the place and I'm here to hve a good time not caring about anyone else. Girls find guys who act mysterious really sexy, I learned tag body language is the major part of the battle. What you say is minor in comparison, just don't get goofy if your going for humor don't make it seem like your trying to hard. Just make a witty comment here and there. To keep a conversation going , ask open ended questions. Make sure o listen to what they're saying and add to it. After a while change the topic, flirt, repeat. It's really easier done then said haha I'm a natural type. I'm just leading to be concious of what I do when I get women. but you'll get there just don't be afraid of rejection, everyone gets rejected even brad Pitt and George clooney.