Ok, so basically you can't be both at the same guy.
There are two types of alpha men personality:
1) positive guys... these guys always smile and try to think positively even when they actually feel down, and girls like those guys because they are easy and fun, and make them laugh, and that positivity translates to them, which makes girls feel good and comfortable. These guys still have their ego, and can get really angry sometimes, and then they really show it, but the most of the time they show of their positive vibe, and girls like that.
2) pretty tough alpha, James Bond / Tyler Durden guys ... I rarely seen Tyler Durden smile, he's more like tough, dangerous guy full of attitude and girls like that. He's not so positive, he has issues, but he's the bad boy girls love.
So the question is: what do you think is better personality to get girls. Faking personality is not so easy, and I myself find it much easier to be #1 guy - positive guy who makes girls laugh and feel that positive energy.
I think most of us can get the most out of game if we stop trying to be Tyler Durden and just show some positive vibe, girls really like that, so why should you try to be bad boy if 90% of us don't have it. I think for #2 you have to be born, not everyone can be James Bond or Brad Pitt, you can learn it a bit (body language, the way you talk etc...) but you will never actually be James Bond if you don't have that naturally.
See this Reddit post, that got me thinking, step #1 -
http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comme ... alone_can/
So I assume that the most easiest way for some normal guy to get girls is by ALWAYS BEING POSITIVE, just like the first step in that Reddit post I sent you explains. And I realized that whenever I go out, and try to feel and look the most positive I can, girls will always come themselves, I don't even have to try to go for them, they will feel positive thinking and come over. Similar goes for the daygame, except maybe you have to try more there.
On the other side whenever I go out and try to be that tough James Bond guy, well, I guess girls can feel when you fake it, and that you're actually not James Bond, girls can really feel that!!
So what I've been trying lately when I go out is this:
1) FEEL AS POSITIVE AS I CAN, SMILE, BE HAPPY, TRY TO TRANLATE THIS POSITIVITY TO PEOPLE AROUND
2) IF GIRLS DON'T COME OVER BY THEMSELVES (WHICH WITH THIS VIBE YOU SHOW IS SOMETIMES POSSIBLE), THEN YOU HAVE TO TALK TO THEM. YOU ALREADY FEEL SO POSITIVE THAT THIS IS NOT PROBLEM FOR YOU AT ALL, YOU CAN'T THINK ABOUT NEGATIVE THINGS SO THERE IS NO MUCH APPROACH ANXIETY. APPROACH ANXIETY IS ALL ABOUT NEGATIVE THINKING!
And this works!! It works like charm! I don't really thik about what I'm going to tell her (the opener and stuff) because I don't care, I just feel good, positive, I don't have problems with going to the girls.
On the other side, when I was playing tough James Bond type, this would always translate to girls like "ok, this guy, he looks mad at something, not sure if he would like to talk to me". Tough guys are ok only if they really are tough guys, because that vibe helps them get the girls. That's because they are tought and full of attitude and don't have problem going to millions of girls and talk to them. But if you really are not born as James Bond, and don't feel that, the best thing you can do is BE POSITIVE, AND SHOW THAT. You will be amazed how many girls will stop next to you.
Have in mind that when I say you should be positive, that doesn't of course mean you should take crap from people. You are just positive/fun, which is the way to go but you still have your ego and you know where it stops. But you always try to put it on the positive thinking, unless someone is really idiot and try to put you down somehow. Then you show them the other (angry) side. This is how good positive guy shows his alpha personality.
And I really want to know what do you guys think about it, this is just my opinion.
CHAT