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SUMMER BREAK MOMENTUM UPDATE:
Fuarrkk.. Idk... fuarrkk I need help brahs.
I'm still struggling with AA. It's a bitch. I'm not necessarily afraid of rejection, but I"m afraid of everyone watching me get rejected. So I realized this and told myself that I needed to do exactly that to overcome it. I started doing it and it was working. I felt AA going away and I could open anyone up. But I was up 3 to 0 or something, I was with my boy, and I had to wait for him to open too. I'm not just going to leave him behind. And his AA was bad... we were walking laps around the mall and he still didn't approach anyone. I'm like "c'mon bro". Then he started getting defensive at me, SMH. And when he did it (approach) it was a boring approach. Then after all that waiting my AA came back and we just kinda went home.
I saw a lot of cute girls I wanted to talk to, but I was straight bitch mode.
Mehhh it was one of those days.
My question to you experience guys out there, it's clear my biggest problem is people watching me get rejected. Would it be okay if I purposely went out to the mall or something and got rejected for the first x number of sets... Just until my AA went away?
I will say that overall, my confidence is higher than before I started this Summer Break Momentum thing. I can actually say something to strangers on the street. Before I wouldn't even do that b/c I was an extremely shy guy when it comes to girls IDK. I only knew girls from mutual friends and social circles... not through cold approaches.
God dammit! Fuck AA. Piece of shit.
AA is a bitch. It goes away through practice and being rejected, but if you get rusty and sit out for too long, it comes back. There is a good tip for dealing with it. "3 second rule". You decide on an approach 3 seconds after seeing a girl. If you decide to do it, you force yourself to go through with it. Only having 3 seconds to decide puts pressure on you to make up your mind and not overthink it. I think, the best way to get over AA is trial by fire. Go direct and open the way we talked about earlier. You're going to have to feel the burn of rejection before you get numb to it.