alright everybody is all over the place here:
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K to start of, I'm no AFC I have been gaming for a while, I know how most of this works, and that's why I fucked up.
I have been on and off girls for a while, but this one was special, I completely fell in love, like deep, really deep without lube. Now You have to know the whole story to be able to to help me out here.
^ this one girl, this is called onitis/neediness, that is the beginning on the end, does not matter how good you are with women.
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She got put in my group for film, I instantly was interested in her, so from the beginning I didn't talk to her much, and when I did, I wasn't the nicest person in the world...I didn't do any kino...well because I really liked her and didn't want to play games, a year went by I dated other girls and had sex...yet near the end of the year I got really close to her, talking more, calling, going out, at this point I was completely in love. At some-point we went out to the club(before this I was going to tell her at another time, but the words didn't come-out) so she kept nagging me to tell her what I wanted to say the other day, so I thought she liked me as-well, she also kept asking if I would miss her over the holidays, and I always replied no in a nice way. So in the club I told her, and she was so confused, she kept saying to me I thought you didn't like me, I thought I was just someone you spoke to when you're friends weren't around.
this are all symptoms of neediness/onitis... There is nothing you did wrong other that showing onitis=kill attraction, or make the girl even if she likes you screen hard(find or maximize your flaws)
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Oneitis is the seduction community’s play on “itis” as a disease to refer to when a guy falls hard for a girl, to the point of obsessing over her. It is often characterized by the guy making statements such as “she’s the only one for me,” “she’s not like that,” and “she’s different from all the other girls.”
A guy who has oneitis feels that he is in love with the girl and that no other girl can meet his needs in the way that she can. Sometimes the girl is his girlfriend and sometimes just a “best friend” that he is in love with. It can be a form of obsession.
Oneitis is a relatively common occurrence because the idea of being in love, and even of having unrequited love for a girl that doesn’t return the same feelings, has been romanticized in popular culture. In reality, it is a wrenching and painful experience that rarely ever results in a happy relationship.
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She hugged me, bit my shoulder gently and so I got my hopes up high, very high. So I told her, lets go outside and talk, she got up and said let me go to the toilet first, she was in there for one-hour, most likely talking to her best friend about it, she came out and started giving me the col-shoulder. We went home, oh BTW the biggest thing here is, there is my guy friend Jake who was always with us, all the time, trying to help me, giving me opportunities to talk to her alone( I know, big mistake) so we came to my place, and it was awkward as fuck, she talked to me normally, no difference, I felt friend zone, but my hopes were to high to give a shit. I thought fuck it im going to tell her again properly tomorrow in uni, and so I grabbes her hand and took her outside sat her down, looked in her eyes told her everything, went to kiss her. She pushed me away gently and said, but I only like you as a friend.....WHA DA FUCK! ok I completely deduced how this happened, but whatever the case, I really do love this girl and can't even think of anyone else right now, all those girls who I was talking to before are getting ignored, I cba, I really cba with anyone else right now, I just want her.
^ onitis onitis onits, ignoring the other girls is the WORST SHIT YOU CAN DO...
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I need help on this, we start the second year of uni in 4 months, long time I know, she wont be in the same class any-more either so that's good, I can ignore her easier. HOW DA FUCK DO I GET OUT OF THIS FRIEND ZONE AND GET HER TO SEE ME AS A SEXUAL ENTITY! seriously guys, I depended on you before and you helped allot, and this right here is my last request, so please....help me out. I deleted her of face-book, her number, threw her shit out of my room, talked to other chicks, but I can't forget her atall. I really do want her, so please don't come-out with shit like, oh just go date other girls she'll come to you. I know she liked me, I know this, there is no fucking way she thinks of me as a friend, she's just scared of a relation ship and her "advice giving friends" are fucking it up for me. So what do I do? between now and next year of uni and/or when uni starts.
In this post i provided a link of what i did when i had the exact same situation, but there was no "love" wtf is that?
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