Years ago I remember reading a PUA gurus declaration that "Inner game is everything" At the time this wasn't what I wanted to hear; I wanted pick up lines, techniques, methods and the like. Eventually of course I realised the guy was right. How it works ( I think) is that everyone of us when we interact with another person send out "reality pings" a bit like a submarine's sonar and the purpose of these pings is to give us information on what status we have in any hierarchy of individuals or with an individual, then we take our allotted place in the frame: lower or higher value. Inner game transmits a higher value to the other persons returned "ping" due to congruent body language cues called BMIR's (Behavioral manifestations of internal representations) and "value" (from a genetic or cultural disposition) is the key to all attraction in my book.

The reason it works is most likely that; humans had been on earth for hundreds of thousands of years before language evolved and deep inside our brains the circuitry to interpret these cues still remains as long as they are the real deal (your inner game is real)

Any experienced PUA will tell you that when you net your first HB10 and realise just how high you can fly then the 6's and 7's who you used to chase all of a sudden start showing an interest in you.

That's the most succinct explanation of inner game that I've found so far. I think I kind of get it now. But then again, with the whole "ping" idea, I think it's confusing. If I understand correctly when we are talking about a "hierarchy" it's a temporary arrangement based on the immediate social surroundings rather than the "hierarchy" out in the real world.

So if I can give an example, even when two guys are equal in attractiveness, bartender gets the girl not the investment banker because the former knows how to assert himself over the rich IB in a conversation with a woman? (I.e. the bartender has inner game, and the IB doesn't have the confidence/skill in this very specific setting.)

Am I close?

You will hear time and time again in PUA the phrase "attraction is not a choice" and the reason for this is something inside your mind outside of conscious awareness is deciding for you what is and what's not attractive. The difference between men and women is that our male attraction trigger is predominately visual; we find beauty attractive because our gene masters are looking to propagate themselves and beauty in a woman is a sign of healthy genes. Our own genetic hardwiring is deciding for us that if we mate with this or that attractive woman then our offspring will have more chance of surviving and carry our genes to the next generation.

Women however can't just rely on a mate being attractive (but are still somewhat attracted to such men for the same reasons as us) but have to be able to recognise other traits such as provider/protector and various other DHV's as they will help her and her children survive AFTER the child is born. Now the Holy grail for their genes is the leader of the social group she lives in as he is generally the most powerful protector and has access to the most resources to help her and her child survive. Pre-language humans had to rely on unconscious signals from such guys which she herself sometimes sends out a "reality pings" somewhat similar to modern day shit tests but body language versions. When you "get" inner game then you're body language and BMIR's are totally congruent and the women's latent hardwiring picks this up and attraction is created and her conscious mind has no say in the matter. Hierarchy in all animals is so important in the race to upgrade our genes by mating with a higher value partner that 99.9% of PUA depends on it in one form or another.

Have you written any books? I would definitely read them.

It's interesting, I think I get now how there are times where that "inner game" is more successful that others. For example I may talk to cute nurses, even flirt with them, when we are working at the hospital, but ultimately that is not an appropriate setting so I keep limits on it. And when I tell one of them what to do (which is rare since I am still not quite an MD) she is expected to do it even when she disagrees with it.

But when I've run into nursing students or new nurses out in the field (sadly a rare event), that mindset of "this woman is professionally preparing to follow my orders" is absolutely still there. The "cocky-funny" thing is very natural and she seems more relaxed and maybe even comfortable with following my lead. Obviously it's immediate DHV on my part when she finds out I'm going into surgery but I also project the sense of being the "leader of the social group".

Of course, this is a specific and uncommon relationship for two strangers to immediately have upon meeting.

If there was a way to recreate that between a guy and a girl in a typical social situation, it would be incredibly potent. Is there any other way? Or is that basically the holy grail of inner game?