Okay so theres this girl I like, we were seeing each other for a while, sex, hooking up, chilling all the time...Then I made the mistake of drunk calling her and telling her i liked her etc...She backed off heaps, and even told me that the drunk call turned her off me...I know that before the drunk call she liked me a lot as well because she told me she was maybe keen on a relationship in the future...So I haven't seen her for about 4 weeks now, and during a couple of those weeks I tried to get her back but nothing worked...I gave up talking to her and so I stopped and about a week later (yesterday) of not talking to her at all she messaged me on Facebook. We had a good conversation like normal times and once it died down I said I had to get going...She is the girl of my dreams and I have no idea how or what my next move should be! I have been giving her no attention at all and she eventually contacted me which I said above ^ and I haven't asked her to hang at all or anything, i've just been trying to play it cool. Is there anything I can do now that will help me get her back?? I know it won't be straight away but I'm saying over time...should i keep letting her contact me first? I really want to work on this! so any advice will be appreciated!?

And please don't tell me to just give up, I want answers that will answer my questions ^ Thanks

Oneits...

She's not the girl of your dreams, dude. That's unrealistic and you're fixated on her. Best solution is to start gaming other girls, back-burner her and give her some space... You smothered her initially so she freaked and backed off. Don't do that again.

Treat her like you would treat a girl you weren't really into.