| Yooo..Brand new vblog up and live. On the topic of congruence. Check out out. Let me know what you guys think. Link is in my sig. Anyway..to todays post.
Setting the Pace:
invited Tennessee girl ( girl who im in a "open" relationship with) over today.
She arrived. Greeted her and we hoped in her car to go get milkshakes.
We get to my basement. Chat for a bit and i immediately start escalating. She gets turned on. Gives me a lmr i push through. She claimed i only invite her over to have sex. Why don't i just come to her place?
Her parents are always around at her place so its nearly impossible to do anything without risking her dad walking in on her blowing me.
She basically wanted reassurance that i dont just invite her over to have sex.
I let her know we can be more free at my place, and enjoy each others company more sense we don't have her parents hovering over us.
Bam. Done. she complies. Start taking her clothes off. Bang her across my bed.
The bad thing about this chick is...She was a virgin when i met her. So the sex is pretty bad. But eh, someones gotta be her first.
There is pretty much no major enjoyment in sex with her. The blow jobs suck. She doesnt know how to give handjobs. She cant kiss. and she doesn't know how to have sex period. Of course not, she is a virgin.
But for me it sucks, and i dont enjoy it. I would say i enjoy her company more than anything and her feminine energy. She is a really good girl and different from your average "club" girls. During our sex i was just trying to get my nutt off with her and be done. In fact when she comes over i dont even want to fuck..Honestly.
But ultimately this relationship with her is DEFINITELY means to an end.
After sex, we talk for a bit and i had to let her know the deal.
I basically told her i do see other girls, and i go out with my friends to pick up girls. I even broke it down to her how i do it..
I even went as far to say i text, dance, and meet up with other women...i told her we both are 20 yrs old. We have so much of our lives to live, so many different people to meet. We need to explore life right now, and enjoy our these moments.
She agrees and she actually said she felt closer to me after this conversation...Amazing what honestly does. I can bet if she had seen me in the club, day game, etc with other women, she would probably flip out.
but because i was a fucking man and told her the deal that i WILL be seeing other women, it was a different perspective for her. instead of being lied to she felt the honesty.
I asked her if she was going to break up with me now, and she says.. "Why would i do that? I like you a lot. your fun. different than me. I really like that."
She ask me would i be mad if she started seeing other guys.. I say yeah i would care, but ultimately i would not be mad at her.
She starts to cuddle with me and talk about romantic things etc. She says the only thing that scares her is if i meet a new girl i really like...I say nothing...Thats just the risk she's taking..
In a nuttshell. I was complete congruent with myself, open and honest, and WILLING to risk losing her. Because i know what i want out of my life right now in the this moment, and its NOT to be in a serious relationship..Now that she knows this. we can still hang out, meet other people, do our thing and be cool.
So i thought id post this to let guys know to be congruent and honest...even if it will risk losing something. You must be congruent to what you want in life and be willing to take that risk. If not you will be fucking miserable and unhappy.
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