Hello PUA's,
My name is Dakotah. I am recently new to this entire PUA thing but i want to give it a try because i am so bored day to day. I want to change my life around because it just repeats itself. I am an introverted kind of guy who grew up with only a handful of friends who are now gone and it's just me. Unfortunately, life has taken a turn for what seems like the worst but my spirit brightens it up, I need help finding my inner me. I need help to find the best self i can be and was meant to be, I can feel it inside of me ( Talking about confidence). I'm a great learner who can be fast on his feet but my mind is fogged by the insecurity of rejection. I'm a thinker who doesn't want to think anymore, i want to do what I've always dreamed about: Being surround by loved ones, Getting the girl, Having more friends, and most importantly live life to the fullest the cup can take.

I have began reading The Game By Neil Strauss, It has opened my mind to begin trying something i'm not comfortable with, something bold, and adventurous. Secondly, i have a couple of books that Neil Strauss has also recommended to get my knowledge intact and prepared for the journey ahead. So if you're interested in helping me, i'm all ears definitely.

Thank you.
~Kotah

Hi, and welcome.

Step 1. DONT BE FEARFUL OF REJECTION! Congratulations- you are no longer fearful of rejection!

Seriously, don't be. What harm could it do to be rejected? If you get rejected, you move on to your next rejection. After a short while of homing your new-found knowledge, you will soon find that rejection will no longer be an option- only success.

Neil Strauss wrote about approaching girls in the shopping mall and literally asking them to reject you. This is exactly what I did, and I actually found myself very quickly getting offers from 2 girls to actually be their BF, so trust me its not all bad.
Neil Strauss is a master, but don't forget that there are many other masters out there too- read up on as much (as as wide as variety) of posts, books, forums, etc that you get your hands on. Thats what I did for a good 6-8 months when I started all that time ago. I literally did nothing else but read and sarge (day/night/online, you name it)
In terms of meeting women at this current stage of your life, what would you like to achieve? As many as possible or finding that one true love asap?

Hopefully you will recieve all of the support you need from this forum. Have fun!

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Thank you for welcoming me to the community!

I'm very glad to have joined. 1717, I would like to achieve getting many many more friends who are girls that i can attract for fun, hang out with, and find that true love. I've only been with one girl, i thought she was the one. We dated for a whole year! heck i was so low with myself and for someone as pretty as her, she was a 8 at best. It took me two weeks to fall in love with here, and get this, we didn't even have sex. I am not one to kiss and tell it just isn't my thing; but that's all i can tell you really. The really sad part is we broke up five days after our anniversary and that was such a hard hit that it made me never stop thinking. It's taken me a year to master the courage to find my self again. Now i want to completely change my life, i want to be Bold, Daring, and most importantly Confident.

I know there is many other masters such as Mystery, Papa, X( i believe). I just want to learn it all, i want to master it myself for my own benefit to find the best self i can be. Where are some good starters?

Sorry it took so long to reply, Today is my Mother's birthday.
~kotah

I know the story all too well- I too had that girl who I believed was "the one." You dated your girl for a whole year with ever doing the deed? I admire your resolve! Mainly because that's exactly what happened with my girl. She claimed to "not be ready" or "apprehensive" and time just slipped us by I guess. So you have many people on here that can relate to your story!
A little bit of kiss-and-tell with your future endeavours can go a very long way in helping yourself out- figuring out what could've been improved, where you might have gone a little wrong, what worked in your favour.

There is no specific place to start really- Just search for people who's styles may interest you and pursue information from there. The way I started was to get my friends to come out with me every night, while I sarged every girl on sight- literally. I learned a lot from that, such as how the pretty skinny girls really are not different to the chubbier giggly girls. All you gotta do is break down the skinnier one's Bitch Shield first. You'll be surprised at how easy this can be. I also looked up Derek Rake and his Seduction On Steroids and his Speed Seduction site, personally I found that to be a very useful resource, but you know, each to their own really.

Keep in mind that practise definitely makes perfect!

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newbie-faq-introduction-to-pua-vt44144.html

^ This link is to the list of PUA Schools on this site, I dunno if you've checked it out yet.

Enjoy!

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You're right about the whole Kiss-and-Tell in the future that will change so i can improve myself even more. Thank you for that wonderful link, it will be very helpful to me. The only thing for me though is i want to see how it is done, i'm shy but once i see what to do i can learn it very quickly. I could always start small with compliments and improve from there, it's not about winning or losing but improving!

~Kotah

Definitely- that's exactly it. An Artist will state that he can always improve on perfection. Pick Up is never perfect, it can always be tightened.

Where do you live? You could always try and find out where the nearest PUA Workshop is to you. I know there are a few weekend workshops in London over the next couple of months!

Compliments can help to a certain extent, its all just dependant on how you deliver those compliments. For instance, there is a very easy way to tell a girl that she doesn't need make up because she is very beautiful antually- and there is a very easy way to do this without sounding creepy or overly interested in her- Take one of my openers in supermarkets. If you see a girl looking around on shelves for something that she can't find, I say "You look about as lost as I am..." ( I pretend to be looking for something that I can't find too. Except do NOT do this while your on the tampon aisle, it makes you just look strange...)
The girl will almost always giggle and say what she is looking for. I take a few seconds to 'look' for her. It all depends on the aisle your both on really. You could always use the products on the aisle to "create" a funny story that you were in recently. (of course you weren't, all you want to do is make her laugh, and feel more comfortable around you.) She can't find a certain type of make up product- you can comment on the stuff that your sister uses. She will respond with some uninteresting shit. Depending on what is said you could progress towards this compliment in her not needing make up.

See? That way, you don't give her a compliment outright- you do it as part of a general conversation. Subtle? Yes, it is. But women pick up on subtlety very well, and that's what most men underestimate.

So you could say that indirect openers are more suited towards Day Gaming. Girls on a night out at the bar will be expecting guys to approach her and tell her how hot she is, or whether they can buy her a drink. Of course they can get her a free drink, its free for her. And it's a drink. But most girls won't be expecting anything like a direct opener (-Insert witty opener here-)

So it can normally depend on when your gaming really dude. But in different scenarios during the day game slot, direct openers 'could' work, but don't be surprised if they fail at this time. Unless you produce something fantastic. If you do have something fantastic- what the hell is it, I'd love to know lol!

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That's a great idea! i will have to definitely have to try that out. It sounds fun and playful, but i live right smack dab in the middle of Colorado. (Castle Rock) i can easy muster up the courage to approach a girl, the only thing that stops me is i think WAY to much about what to say and plan it. I need to just accept the fact that i shouldn't have to plan anything and just do it. The more you plan it out and think about it, the more likely you will just ultimately fail and doubt yourself. Thankfully, Failure is good but doubt is not.

I really want to find a workshop nearest to me right away! i want to improve and just have fun with it all! i know i will be able to find that girl worth keeping around.

Of course you'll find 'the one', I'm sure most people do at some point.

When I started in the game, I literally walked up to girls in the mall and literally asked them to reject me- it made me stronger at dealing with rejection, yet after a certain amount of communication with a couple of these girls I expected a rejection from, I genuinely got relationship offers from two of them. So it could work well either way!

I believe that genuine game is alot to be desired about- there isn't any reason to feel fake, or like you've bribed the girl in a sense to doing whatever. Opening a girl can be a genuine thing- being playful, or intellectual- through trial and error, I have found that adding one of the of canned openers or telling a false tale made up on the spot depending on the situation can be incorporated into your genuine game in order to give more substance to you overall, and she will really dig it. Very soon, you'll find yourself in a fun and interesting chat like I have done many times. Number-closed and F-closed many times using this technique... And I live in London, so opening a girl who is alone in a supermarket or shopping mall is one of the hardest things to do to an English girl. They do not have the same fun and open mindset of American girls, so you should rock at this type of 'routine' in Colourado!

Explore with it, have fun!

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Thanks 1717, I will defintiely give it a go this up coming weekend and just have fun with it all! i will tell all the details of how it went down! i will try to open atleast 5 sets each day.

Cool stuff, we would all love to help!

Just remember that if you don't quite manage to open 5 sets, and maybe only open 4 sets in a single day, then don't judge it as a failed day- judge it as a day that could've possibly gone better. Just look to improve day by day.

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Hi!
I'm new and i'm here to learn more with this great comunity!
I have 19 years old and i'm from Turkey!
I've read some topics and i think we will understand great!
I found this forum on the uncle google, when i've trying to solve some problems!

well I am neeraj I am a seo professionalist ,I love to play guitar ,like to do swim ,well I am also a good dater, a lot of girls like me this way and love work for myself ...

I will got for atleast 3 sets, Maximum 4. I can do this, i'm starting to feel that confidence i've always needed.
I have the technique and mind set but just need to find my balls.