Hi all, first i would like to tell you that i am just coming out of a serious LTR that lasted for 2 years, we broke up like 2/3 weeks ago, however i have been semi-reading PUA articles in the course of our relationship, just because i really found it interesting, so you might see me making some mistakes in the following scenario so please do tell me if i could have done anything different.
There's this HB8 that i've known for 2 maybe 3 years, if you ask me if i am friendzoned i would say
probably not. In the 2 years that i had a relationship i have talked to her maybe once every 2 months on average i'd say.
However when we broke up i started talking to her a lot more, i figured i wanted to learn how to game and thought lets just see where i get and what i can improve on.
Notes:
-8/10HB
-Good Girl id say
-Never had a boyfriend before
-Probably virgin
-Not sure if she ever kissed before
-17 years old (im almost 20) (problem?)
Background Story
About 2.5 years ago (when i was still single and never read PUA articles) me and my friend were having a Lord of The Rings movie night at my home, so i was talking to HB8 randomly and told her for fun :
Me: Yeah we're watching LOTR tonight, totally sounds like you, you should come (I was joking)
HB: Uhm ok, i think i saw 50% of the first movie
Me: Good then you're just on time, come over tomorrow at 19:00
HB: Ok
(Thats how i remember the conversation going)
And she did infact came over that time, i didn't expect it as i was just joking and a friend was also tagging a long, me and my friend were asking questions like "she must like one of us otherwise she wouldn't come?" or maybe she's just into LOTR, who knows.
Anyway, we watched all the movies, nothing special happened tbh, nothing to talk about. At the end of that very week we went to the movie theatre with us 3, when we got to the seats my friend quikly sat down in the mid seat so he was guaranteed to sit next to her (
). Me and the HB are always joking how we thought it was annoying because we wanted to sit next to eachother ("joking?" )
Back to now:
So i was talking to her, invited her over to a party i was attending, she tagged along with some friends, we got drunk and sat next to each other for XX amount of time (honestly wouldn't know), i had my arm around her and she had her hand semi around my waste all the time, for the rest nothing special happened.
Couple days later i was talking to her
HB8: Haha yeyea i remmeber blablalabl small talk
Me: haha
Me: You like ice skating?
Her: No im terrible at that
Me: Ok, too bad
Her: Why?
Me: Im terrible too, thats why
Her: Go learn it !
Me: I figured you could teach me, but i guess we'd just be on the ground more often than not
Her: Hey! Im not that bad!
Me: So you can teach me?
Her: Yes then you will become just as good (bad) as me
Me: Cool, what day are you free next week
Her: Im free all week
Me: Ok so we're going ice skating next friday
Her: Nice!
Her: Look at this burger im eating *sends picture* (her changing the subject quikly?)
So at this point i am not sure wether she was taking this serious or not, she is kind of the "not taking anything serious" girl, like you ask her "wanna date" and she will instantly reply "ye sure" in a non serious funny way, so i'm not sure if the date is real at this point or not
However:
Her: blabla small talk
Her: anyway, gonna go to sleep, goodnight
Me: Goodnight!
Her: I can't sleep (literally 10 seconds after she said she was going to sleep)
Me: Why? Nervous for next week friday?
Her: haha yes
Her: What if u are suddenly really good
Me: You will find out next week
Her: Mean!
Me: So i heard the person that falls over the most pays for drinks later?
Her: yes, so thats you
Me: Nice, ill leave my wallet at home then
Her: Hahahahahha me too
Me: I hope you can run fast after all that falling you're gonna do
Her: why?
Me: If we both have no money we should probally run after drinking our drinks
Her: Hahahah ye
Her: Well now im really gonna sleep and dream about our ice skating adventures ! Goodnight xxx
Me: Goodnight xxx
At this point i got the feeling that the date was maybe a serious thing for her (or could she see it as "friends"?)
Now today i went for drinks in a local bar her and HB8 and her friend HB6 was there too, i joined them for drinks and here's a thing that got me thinking:
HB: Blbalbal i have a hot tub blabla
Me: Hot tub, cool, ill join you some time
HB: sure
Me: *Sticks out hand to make the deal complete*
HB At this point is not giving me her hand and holding back, while my hand is sticking forward, she's hesitating and says
HB: No... you're not serious i know you
Me: I am, dare to shake my hand?
HB: uhmm
At this moment im taking back my hand
10 seconds later
HB8: Ok i believe u
Me: *stick out hand again*
and then she shakes my hand
Now the part that got me thinking here was
maybe she thinks im not serious about stuff (including the ice skating date) and thinks its all a joke? im not sure.
After this i brought her home (i was with car and there was thunder and rain) and in the car we talked
Me: So what should i wear next week? I never ice skated before, what pants should i be wearing? sweats?
Her: Im going in jeans
Me: Ok, ill do the same then
Then we arrived at her home and she left the car and said bye and i said bye back.
Thats it guys, really curious what you guys think of this and what i could have done better and wether this girl sees it as serious or not, im really new to this stuff just coming out of a relationship so, all help is appreciated! Thanks a lot!
CHAT
