(I am aware to be careful in saying her name in public) hahaha

5:12pm
Thesius: Hey what are you doing this weekend?


5:17pm
Negar:Sat I have plan all day
But on sunday I have to go somewhere at night
But during day im free

5:19pm
Thesius: No, fuck that. Night time or no time.

Night. Dancing. Margaritas.

5:21pm
Negar: I cant at night
I have plans already sorry

5:28pm
Thesius:
Lol jk. Okay, what time Sunday?


Today

11:54am
Negar: I forgot that its Sunday so I probably want to spend the time with my family during the day
so lets do something some other time

So since this is Facebook, I know that I'm very limited in the maneuvers that I can do. But how should I respond? Should I just not respond; (fuck it)?

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Is this strictly FB to date?

No texting, calls, in person?

Your question lacks context.

If you've only been doing FB game to now, she's flaked on you without proposing another time (and sort of in a lame way too)...

I'd say fuck it, personally, but you haven't provided any other details... ie: Do you like her? want to date her? have you tried this before? Have you ever met? etc...

I would reply with this...


I don't know maybe, depends on my schedule I'll let ya know. I have _____ going on soon.

then when she says she wants to go out, tell her you "had ___" (same thing as before) but you would rather see her.

big win

Sorry bro but you lost this one.

You fucked up at the part where she told you what her schedule was. She said she was free during the day, you insisted on meeting her at night.

Not only is it disrespecting her schedule, not only can you totally hook up during the day, but it was also a huge PUSH towards sex in a really obvious way.

Once you said that, she knew for sure that she had you and sex was what you were after.

Better for her to wonder than to know. Knowing takes the fun out of it for the girl.

I know you were trying to be alpha and manly and stuff by insisting she only meet you at night, and it's even MORE manly to adapt to her schedule (unless it's logistically impossible for you), and bring her to some cool place during the day where the two of you could talk, or more...

After you made her uncomfortable (which is what she expressed to you when she told you she's not free on Sunday anymore...she was just communicating that you made uncomfortable), your messages were all downhill.

You apologized for what you wanted, and caved big-time. You put yourself in the "pursuer" role, which is not really what you want.

Also it makes absolutely no difference whether this plays out on Facebook, on the phone, over text, or in person--the dynamic of what actually happened would have been the same anywhere.

Your only chance at this one, is when she said "let's get together later" you text back "cool, lemme know what your schedule is like" and take it back to the step where you messed up. It's probably salvageable but you need to be smart about it. Don't initiate any more contact. If she comes to you, Game on. If she doesn't, NEXT!

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