Hi Everyone,

I hope all of you are doing well. Let me explain my story and get some advice from all of you regarding what I can/need to do to resolve this. It goes like this:

Last year, I joined your world of PUA's with the intent of finding "the love of my life." The game started in field last year roughly around April and on December 23rd, I found an amazing woman. After a few dates, we both realized that our "value system," family morals, belief systems, hobbies (we're both runners/triathletes), and everything in between were closely aligned. I became exclusive to her - and I still am.

As a Canadian citizen (Indian born) in the United States, I am obliged to work sponsorship here and a few days ago, I learned that it will take me 9 years before I can consider getting a green card. I'm not ready to stay in the United States for another nine years JUST to get a green card. The world is too big for me to be at the mercy of one employer.

Fortunately and I've been talking to my dad about this, but eventually I'm going to join my dads firm and slowly take on more ownership of it in Singapore. With the intent of owning our very lucrative family business in SINGAPORE, I'm suddenly on the fence and thinking about leaving to Singapore to join the business as an employee, learn the ropes, bring business back to North America, and continue owning this business.

I'm 30 years old and I'm not getting younger. I am actually "in love" with the girl I'm dating, and given that she is an American citizen living here, I'm at a loss as to how to deal with this situation. I know I need to leave to Singapore, but I'm torn because I don't know how to leave and break up with her. My ideal situation will be is if she came with me to Singapore for a couple years, before coming back here to continue building the business.

I hinted the news to her this morning and she was in tears and I can feel how depressed she is as much as I am. I don't think she wants to leave the United States (her dad is dying because of a disease he has), yet I don't have a choice and I need to leave for my own sanity and smart career moves.

So, I'm on the fence and my options are as follows:
1. We break up and I leave peacefully, which makes me heart broken.
2. We keep it long distance and try to make it work, which is not entertaining.
3. She comes with me and we live in Singapore together. I run my dad's business, she finds a job (or not because I can finally take care of her - no problem).
4. I stay here and if things work well till early next year, we get married and see how everything plays out.

I'm struggling with my situation. What would you do?

All I'm gonna say is FUCK the government.

Your career should not make your life (be it working in the US or taking over the family business in Singapore)

DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE. NOT JUST WITH YOUR CAREER. I will promise you that when you are 72 years old, if you don't follow your heart, you will wish that you did. Do what ever will get you to the life that you want to live.

Marry her and you'll get your GC. My sister did that (not for the intention of becoming a US citizen), and although there were still a few hoops to jump through she got it in about a years time. Or go marry her in Canada and take her to Singapore with you.

Forget what anyone on this board tells you, only you can figure this out by listening to your heart. What's it saying to you right now? Perhaps you may not be able to hear it at the moment because you're too much in your head. Take some time, work on being at peace with yourself and then you will be able to hear it and the choice will then clearly come to you.