I've heard of girls liking a guy and not wanting to sleep with him right away because it could ruin it. But this is ridiculous.


- A girl I've mention before, wants me to fly over to her. We usually do SPAM stuff and it gets pretty hot and heavy.

- This time it was different. Suddenly she stopped playing with herself and said something like, no if you want me to orgasm you have to fly over here and do it for real. She's been trying to get me to fly over, I didnt know she was serious. She just stopped touching herself and didnt continue.


It felt like a blow to my ego. Suddenly, that chapter has to close because its not good enough anymore. But theres a chance she really meant it and was doing it just to get me to fly over. She's willing to pay. I should go.

But do you honestly think its bc she wants to visit, or she just wasnt feeling it anymore?

Are you insane ? She told you what she wants. She even pays for your trip. Get your ass off this forum and go over there and fuck her good.
Wtf are you waiting for ?

I couldn't agree more.

I'd say go for it. In a similar situation, but it's draining out.

Thank You Guys
God this chick is awesome. I tried to be brutal to myself so that I dont have to accept the fact that she legitimately likes me.

I even did tests to see if she was kidding. Best part is I havent told her the best parts of myself, she likes me for my worst qualities.

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Why I Haven't Yet / More Advice

I would have said YES like two weeks ago. But I found out I might be able to go visit her, escorting my family to her state. I'd stay for a week. I've been keeping it as a surprise. So this way she wont have to spend her money when Im going there anyway.

Thing is the plans aren't solid on the family thing, so I dont want to tell her and then it doesnt happen. Im this close to just saying yes to her paying me and then I'd like reimburse her later without saying it off the bat.

Dont let it die out. Take the first shot you got, and if you need to reimburse her do it. The fantasy is the girl paying for you though but it seems like she's more than willing to pay?

Fly her over to you that way if you aren't feeling it its less of an inconvenience to you.

Flying over to her seems a bit over-the-top. How well do you know this girl? Have you ever met before in the flesh? Is she interested in a relationship? Are you? A girl who demands you fly over and you've yet to even meet may have a few screws loose - keep in mind some girls like to f&ck with guys (mean, I know, but it DOES happen particularly with younger types as it gives them a sense of power, allowing them to flex their budding sexuality which they know they can use as a manipulative tool). Be smart about this, don't jump just because some girl gives the offer for some free p*ssy. Unless its for the prospect of romance and a relationship, I see no point as it makes you look needy (e.g., that you cant get laid locally so you have to go to such extremes to get it).

I've thought about that too. What if when I say yes to it, she changes her mind. Or what if its a power game to see if I'll do it.

I've been making her chase me with it for a while. And I didnt say yes yet.


I'm wondering whats a great way / time to say yes after all this resistance? Shouldnt it be a time when it means something? And not like ... oh just had lunch, yes i'll come to your state.

Of course Im focusing on other women but this could be fun life experience.

As much as I hate to say it, you are going to fuck this up. You have a chance to visit her for FREE for fuck sake. Why are you over thinking this shit ?

How old are you ? Do you need someone to hold your hand ?

No, it shouldn't be a time when it means something. Don't say 'yes, i'll come', instead say: 'when shall I come?'. It's a difference. The latter less of a step.
You are overthinking this, my friend. The likelihood of you saying no is far bigger than the likelihood of her LMR'ing.

Damn nadine! Thanks.

That's a nice way to play it off. Pretty chill like, meh alright sure. When shall I come?