Please bear with me, this post might be a little long.

To start off, I know this is a pick-up forum. That isn't the only reason i'm here though. The art of pick-up comes along with socialization. Unfortunately for me I have hit a plateau in my social skills. The best I can do is greet people and assure their well being during a customer service interaction. I need your help!

I'm considered to be the "Nice guy" i'm a people pleaser, and absolutely terrified of doing the wrong thing. It's gotten so bad that I've quit jobs because of doing something wrong and afraid of being punished for something so meaningless. This is destroying me in every aspect of my life. i'm now 23 years old and jobless, I moved back to my Mothers to help her cope with the recent passing of my Step Father.

I don't know what to do, I really want to get out of the house and enjoy being around people, and meeting women as well. I do want a job, but i'm so afraid of trying because of what people might think of me. I over-analyze everything I do to the point I put off doing things in fear of the consequences of one wrong move.

I can't even get along with my family, the most I can do is say "Hi" and then hide away in my room. The only time I really leave is to Eat, or go to the gym. Holiday parties are even more awkward, the only conversation I can hold is about Video games. It's the only thing I know of that is cheap entertainment, that I can do safely in the confines of my room without 'disturbing' others.

The few girls I have dated told me they were interested in my physical attraction, but I'm "too nice" and I wasn't interesting enough to hold conversations with. Therefore I gave up and hid away from people.

I've started reading Introducing NLP, but that is as far as I've gotten. Please give me some guides on my next steps.

One final thing, this is more than just about Women. I want to be able to make all kinds of friends and live a better life than my current one.

STOP CARING ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU!! This is the "nice guy" characteristic. Women are not machines that you insert kindness coins into and sex falls out. Be MEMORABLE. Not nice. (Don't be a fuckin jagoff either however)

Peoples approval will not make you truly "happy" or make friends for you.

You are the only person who can make you happy.