hello fellas , new to the forum!
Been talking to this girl i met online for 1-2 months! To my standards she is attractive maybe not her face but has a smoking body! maybe HB8! I do consider my self as attractive" physically, at least that's what the last 5-6 women have said! she is about 1 year older then me. i kinda been dating older women in 3,4 in a a row now! kinda turned on by that! The thing is we hit it off right away. She complemented on how mature i sounded. She consistently ask for my approval even when she had doubt over typed mistake. from the beginning i made my intentions clear, she is from the islands and i though that as hot!
1 thing that i am unsure of is that she works a lot ,and has no time whats so ever. she runs her own small business
i dig more i and ask her about this and she explained that she has a lot going on in her life! I tell her the same thing about my self although i am not as busy.( was being realistic)
that same 1st night i ask her to meet during the weekend, and she say it would good idea! I set up the day and time! fast forward to the weekend and i tell her i am ready. She replies with being sorry and excuse and to meet up some other time!. Fine so i freeze her for 2 weeks, then i decided to escalate with my intentions and intimate conversation! she gladly replies and reciprocate! she send me some hot shower pics. Ask out again and she says she was still busy! Still I remain calm so we talk fro about 2 more weeks and by this point she is sending me nude pics and has given me a nick name "Diablito" in spanish for little devil i guess! On a conversation about something dear to her, i made her "happy cry" like literaly she was crying from the emotions that she had reserved. A week goes by and she is initiating the conversation and say how much I appeal to her! so i told her lets meet, again she says No time! So i kinda put my foot down and told her that if we didn't meet by the end of the week i was going to move on. I wasn't threatening her i was telling that i was wasting time! This time she says to be patient that i had nothing to worry about! Sure enough she txt the next morning and want to meet and cant wait to see me that same day!
It wasn't a date but a first meet and lunch. it went fine we laughed i held my ground and was listening to her if she was trying to game me! I paid the bill, she insisted of leaving the tip so i let her! we talk a bit at her car. she mentions her ex and how he cant leave her alone and she also says "that i need a steady girl"!!... she hugged me and didnt want to let go, but i could not kiss close! and we left.
Next day late after noon she txt and says that lunch was very nice and that i am nice person! But it would not be fair to me that she didn't want to ruin things!. again calm and collected i say i understand, and restate that i too was busy, but if you want to grab a drink. txt me!

1) The mere fact that she mentioned her ex tells me that she isn't over him yet. That's the main problem here.

2) Women you meet online could have a number of extra issues going on that you don't know about, simply because you don't know who they really are.

3) For as long as this drug on before you met (I'm counting 3+ months), she was clearly keeping you on the sideline.

4) If she didn't let you kiss her, she is not sexually interested in any way. She sent you nude pictures, so compared to that, a kiss is absolutely nothing. She also said that you need a stable girl. This translates to "I'm not good enough for you, you need to find someone better", which is a polite way of breaking things off without making you feel bad.

Don't beat yourself up over this. She has baggage that she needs to deal with, and I don't think it's your fault that it turned out this way.

Thanks for the response Snarg! couple of things, the whole thing drag about mid march to may 3. froze her for 8-9 days .I kinda lost track of how long i i been talking to her because past week has been on over load of communication! Next the kissing thing i think i failed to read her when she continuously pulled me back(2,3 times) from the hugs. i should have just stole one from her! one thing i like to point out, when i sent her a pic of me in the beginning she said twice that i was way hotter then her! so i said to my self, wtf who says that!? and that she liked my rough manly looks w.e that means!
i moved on and already as i though i wouldn't want someone who has no time to do anything.. F88k That! have some others in the lining up, but she had potential

Don't ever...ever...ever...EVER....talk to a chick you haven't met in person for 2 months. 1day-1 week max

Freezing out someone you've never met is useless. Also, "stealing" a kiss won't do you any favors. It's basically a lesser (admittedly FAR lesser) form of rape at that point.