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I'll have to disagree with most replies. I read quickly, but it seems like everyone is finger pointing the girl. Personally, I have to blame you, TheMGuy. "..and that shes confused and expected more emotions up until this point." This is her telling you that she's missing the emotional connection she's longing for. And for her to be blunt about it clearly illustrates her interest in you.
Tell me, do you really like her? I suspect you do because otherwise you wouldn't be taking the time to tell us about your situation. So then why are YOU being distant? She's not the one being distant. YOU are. Are you losing interest in her? Are you losing attraction for her? Do you like her personality? Are you turned off by some of her behaviours? Search deep down for the answer, because ultimately only YOU will be able to help yourself. If you still find yourself interested in her, you still are attracted to her, you like her personality, and you're not grossly turned off by some of her behaviour, then there's a huge problem. Perhaps a rough upbringing? Showing affection is hardwired in our DNA, so there's no excuse to go into robot mode if you really care for a person.
As I said 1st and 2nd meet, it was all there ( expect maybe some deep conversations ).
Then on the 3rd meet it was missing, im not sure why but I had a really weird day idk..
And the other problem is I kinda lack building an emotional connection through talking, since im not really a big talker or so.
Btw. My suggestion. Next time you know you're having a weird day. Be upfront. Just flat out tell her your brain is fried after a really busy day, and indicate that she'll have to be the one doing the talking that night. As long as you're not doing it every time, it shouldn't hurt you. Its what I do, and by acknowledging that I'm not the sharpest crayon that night, it takes away the awkwardness of silence. As long as its not your first/second date, its fine.
CHAT