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Cool, Thanks Siren. I like the way you remind me of the humane aspects of a woman's being that one still needs to keep in consideration. I tend to get to sucked in by my own agenda or my own reality that I sometimes forget that I'm dealing with another human being. I think to an extent PUA is born from out an ego driven space. For instance I got into the game because I want more woman in my live. I want more sex in my life. I want to become that friend who is capable to chat up the girls and get them to join our parties. So it's all about what I want and who I want to be. And the irony is, girl can smell ego from a mile..and they hate the stink of it. So like you say, I need to find that balance. How to ridicule yourself from your ego in a game that originated from your ego's desires?
Okay... first of all let me clarify with you that the need from companionship, sex, and sexual intimacy all came from our human desires, not from our ego. If you're going to look at Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, sex comes # 1 and sexual intimacy and relationships comes at # 3. Those motivations are not driven solely by ego but by our biological need for survival.
Now... it's awesome that you could already point out that you've got that ego messing up your game. Good! Awareness is the key to freedom. There are 4 steps to Mastery/Freedom, and that is 1) Awareness; 2) Knowledge; 3) Skill; 4) Mastery; 5) Develop New (Freedom to formulate your own system based from your experience). Which means that in order for you to get skilled in being a good PUA, you need to first be aware and accept your flaws. Good. At least you're in #1 and not in #0. (if 0 is even a #)
So now that you are aware of that ego, what do you do next? That's the question, right?
Thing about THAT ego, our ego, is that we learned to "carry" it as we grow old as a defense mechanism. Have you noticed little children? They have little of it. Why? Because they are not conscious of themselves. However, they only have a little of it coz they still have a feeling of this one thing: Entitlement.
Ever since we were a kid we were already learning the feeling of entitlement. That we should be taken cared of, that we should be loved, that we should be treated this or that, and UNFORTUNATELY, most parents nowadays don't teach their kids anything helpful like what to do on a difficult social situation or what to do in case we get rejected.
So, what do we do anyway?
In the art of seduction, ego is little to none. Why? Because rejection is taken as a part of the whole process of seduction. Rejection is not taken personally. Rejection is part of the whole journey to reach the goal, which is to seduce the lady. You, as a gentleman should know his place in woo-ing the lady while you DHV. Yes, that can be done. It doesn't mean when a lady rejects you it lowers your value, it just mean that you have to calibrate yourself with the experts so that she will unknowingly fall in love with you.
#I'm a traitor to my kind. =))
Good luck!
CHAT
