I've known this girl since the 8th grade, we're both now completing our 1st year in university. She used to like me back up until grade 10, but I don't consider that anything of value, more like puppy-love. In the past few years
she's gone through 2 boyfriends, I've gone through 1 girlfriend. We did make out once before her first boyfriend but after that we never had any sexual contact.
Both of her boyfriends were very clingy, and in a way caged her, wouldn't let her socialize with other people. I was the emotional tampon at the time. Eventually we
stopped talking regularly, but every now and again we would text at night and have long-deep conversations. One night (I was single at the time)
she dumped her boyfriend and called me and said that she belonged with him, that she was meant to be with me all along. Yet, she ended up back with her boyfriend.
More recently, she broke up with her boyfriend about a month and a half ago. She still talks to her ex, and I know she talks to a few other guys including me. We go out for coffee once a week or so and talk. I manage to escalate up to the point where we're holding eachother much like a couple would, and yet I end up stifled at the kiss close. We constantly run into people we know. This has happened a few times now.
I'm employing the push-pull method with her and it seems to work. For every three times she initiates a conversation, I initiate once. I told her I have no interest in hearing about other guys. When she brings up something to complain about I stop it and change the topic.
She flirts, talks about dating, teases me about saying I wouldn't date her, marriage, meeting family etc. When I didn't initiate our conversations for awhile she responded with "why is it always me messaging you! 
we need to work on this relationship!" I laughed and told her I was busy, and she said "I was just kidding <3 Msg me when you're free :*" During a hockey game I had friends over and I told her I'd message her after my friends leave, and during the game there was a big hit and she texted "ouch, that was scary" "SORRY MSG ME AFTER JUST HAD TO REPORT THAT LOL <3" then a goal was scored and she texted "GOAL!" "ok talk to you after :$"
After that we went to hangout with a group of our friends. Her and I were late so
we sat on a bench together and waited while our friends came out of the movies. We sat together for roughly a half hour or more. Escalated up to our legs wrapped, hand holding plus rubbing. And we were talking, and she said, "could you really see yourself dating me? You know so much... the guys I've done things with, my baggage in a relationship" this caught me off-guard and I feel this is where stuff went downhill. I responded with "do you wanna just get even, and know about the girls I've been involved with?" she said sure, and I showed her the girls who I've been talking to and gaming who sent me pictures on my phone.
Her response was "Damn, you pulled some hot girls." I laughed and
she said she's attracted to me, I stated that it was mutual, and she said what do we do? I asked her how she'd feel if I was dating any of these girls and she said she wouldn't be happy, she doesn't want me to date these girls, and I told her likewise I don't want her with another guy. Again she repeated what do we do? I told her well you're attracted to me, I'm attracted to you, but you're not ready to get into another relationship... well we can continue seeing eachother. She said exclusively? I said do you want it to be exclusive? She said how can I trust that you'll cut those girls out and i shot back how can I trust you'll cut other guys out? our friends showed up by then and we had to drop the conversation.
Later on in the day our friends were talking and we were sitting next to eachother.
She leaned into me, eyes slightly dropping, head tilted, smiling and again started talking about marriage, even to the point where she held her hand out and said, if you wanna put a ring on it you have to cut those girls out I laughed and told her, we should probably date exclusively for awhile before we discuss that. She said she wants to be with me though. (I realize what they say is momentary so I took it with a grain of salt) I asked her later if she was seriously telling me to cut these girls cause I expect the same from her and she said she needs to think about it, I figured she was gonna say no and I went with it.
The following day we were talking and she said that upon thinking about it more she realizes she's not ready to be committed. She has her options open and wants some freedom at the moment. I told her we overcomplicated a simple situation. That "If we happen, we happen, we're spending time together and talking, much like we are with other ppl, we're not ready for anything serious, the end. I never wanted to get serious immediately anyways...stuff just kinda unraveled when we were talking and things were said."
So what do I do?
I was thinking I push her away for the next 2 days, be busy, and then Saturday during the Leafs game (go leafs go) she'll probably msg me, I pull her in slightly and end our conversation on a high-note where I tell her to make a day free for us in the week. Push on Sunday maybe? Pull her in during the date, if she brings up dating again I challenge it with how she said she wants her options open. Proper kiss close and then push her away for a day or 2 and set up a second date.
Any suggestions?
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