I've had so many girls in the past who were very interested in me. But I always screw up for some reason and I still cant figure out why..... girls seems very interested when we met, and then we talk, joke, have fun. after a while. They just back off... and seem to be losing interest. Advice?

Do you get physical with these girls ? Physical I mean touching/kiss/sex ?

I had this same problem for years.

The sticking point I suffered from was getting physical and actually allowing them to see me as a sexual prospect. There was no tension or "threat" around me, because I was too much of a pussy to escalate beyond a friendly hug.

Just start touching, put a hand on their shoulder, arm or leg during a conversation, it's easy to do this in a non-creepy way. If a girl has painted her nails, grab her hand and examine them. I find holding a girls hand is a good way of testing her sexual compliance, so I'll often say "Hey, is that a new ring?" or something and grab their hand and then if they aren't reticent and if they even extend the physical contact then you know you can escalate to the kiss comfortably.

There's an old saying where I grew up that goes "Cold hands; warm heart" and that can be used during escalation. Say to a girl "Give me your hands" and when she does, hold them to see if they're warm or cold and tell them you're testing to see if they're cold-hearted or not, in a jokey manner. It sounds a bit dumb, but it can get a laugh depending on your reaction but more to the point, you're holding their hand.

Learning to physically escalate required baby steps for me but it is very effective at just getting you comfortable being a more physical person. Then when your confidence has increased, you can do stuff like grabbing her arm and linking it with yours when you are moving to a new venue etc.

Hope this helps.

Another helpful reply by a helpful guy on this helpful forum lol. thanks a lot