Hey guys, just sharing a FR with some questions as well.

So I went to a houseparty as a 'warm up' for the club. There I met 2 girls (hb8 and hb9) , but didn't really have the intention to pick them up since i was targetting another girl already.

Anyway when I left I told those 2 girls to come with me, and at that moment i saw my original target making out, guess i waited too long to make my move. Anyway, this made me really give my best to close one of the other girls.

When we arrived at the club, hb8 took a smoke outside so i went inside with the hb9. Instantly started dancing, triangular glazing and not even 1 min after entering i was already making out with her.

Since the music was so loud i wasn't really able to build a lot of rapport... When I left i told her to give me her phone number so we could continue this some other time. So she put her number in my phone.


Now after that, 2 flakes. Obviously because i didn't build enough rapport... 1 flake was legit but since she didn't come up with another day/time for a new date i decided to delete the number and move on.

Was doing pretty good forgetting her, but saw her again yesterday when i was with some mutual friends.
She said hello and i gave her a kiss on the cheek and then kinda ignored her. She was really enthousiastic and smiled at me though so now i'm really wondering if i did the right thing deleting her number and ignoring her yesterday, or if i should just talked to her to build some rapport and then arrange a date?

Any tips?

new rule if your gonna delete, put it on paper first
, u never know when a fish might jump back into your boat

i can get the number from one of my friends if i want to, but it just seems wrong to start texting her after i decided for myself to move on, even if she was friendly and happy yesterday...


There is a chance that i will see her at a party next week, so maybe i'll try to build some comfort/rapport then.
Still confused about what to do, don't want to get oneitis and be alpha so walking away, but then again what if she's just one of those girls that need to be chased/wait for you to do something since i already k-closed her?

Here's what I think about your situation: You already made out with her, that was fucking awesome right? So obviously she likes you at least a little if she's gonna do that. If she didn't like you then she would have had you buy her a drink then walk away and ignore you just like she does to all the other AFC's who cant get a girl. So now what?

I think you should get her number from your friend. Then look back and find the day you last messenged her (when she flaked on you) and text her again at least one week from that day. Act like it never happened. Instead start flirting with her, building rapport, gaining comfort, etc. thru text. Act like you're the prize, not her. She should be chasing you. Text sexual things. I recommend referring to slipknot's thread in closing and day 2's section on text advice. Since you were already sexual with her (kiss close) I feel his technique's should work nicely. I was in a similar situation as you are quite a few times and it worked in my advantage. Just stick to his rules and if she goes for it, great. If not, forget her and start talking to new girls. You have nothing to lose from at least trying to redeem yourself. Best case scenario: You become friends with benefits, fucking her every weekend. Worst case scenario: she doesn't play along and then you forget her and never talk to her again.

UPDATE:

Followed OG_PIMP's advice and got the number from my friend. Built some rapport and scheduled a date. Since we're both runners we went for a run of 1 hour.

Since it was my first day 2 as well i didn't really know to do and went a little AFC.
I had a great time and we talked about school, sports, vacation, and other ranfom shit. She was really talking a lot of the time, at least 50%, and was laughing and having fun so that was good.

Now where i went wrong: running is not good for kino or a lot of eye contact, + that k-close was already some weeks ago (+ some alcohol was involvef then) so at the end of the 'date' i gave her a hug and kiss on the cheek since i figured that going for the kiss would have been awkward.
What i also did wrong was not talking enough about sexual things, guess i was too afraid to leave the comfort zonr and just go for it not giving any farks...


So now i feel kinda happy and sad together. I know we both had fun and she said we had to meet again, but i feel like i was too afc so i'm heading to friendzone however that might be a bit exagerated since she must know my intentions after that k-close earlier + some sexual flirting in texts.



So the plan right now is texting her in a few days and arranging another date where kino and eyecontact is easier. Then i HAVE to go sexual and at least kiss her or i'm heading for the hell: friendzone.
Any thoughts/advice?