Hey guys, so this is my first field journal, and I'm hoping you guys can help me out and tell me what I'm doing wrong with pickup. I wouldn't exactly say I'm new to pickup, I found out about it maybe around a few months ago (at first it was from this ad from Josh Pellicer's pick up stuff,which was pretty interesting but I didn't buy it so later I found out about this forum but I haven't had amazing progress yet)

A short Bio:
So I'm a sophomore in highschool, I'd say I'm pretty decent looking. I dress pretty decent (usually something like fitted shirts, chinos or straight fit jeans, and a snapback hat.) My game is okay I've had girls like me before, and I do okay most of the time. My biggest problem before I started pick up was probably identifying IOIs and making a move. Now I would say my bigger problems are cold approaches (I've done some cold approaches before but I still get AA sometimes.) Also, social circle problems: I have friends but I'm not in that popular cool group (I'm not to interested in being popular though) and most people either don't know me or think I'm a decent guy (maybe some people don't like me, but I don't think many people dislike me.)


Some of the goals I have are:
- K-close at least one girl by the end of this school year (Around june-ish)
-Build a larger social circle
-Cure my handicaps (by handicaps I mean like things I use to mask my insecurities like for example I'm a lot more confident with a snapback on, and if I'm not wearing one I'll feel a less confident)
- Get rid of my approach anxiety and be able to approach any type of girl (without caring if she's a HB10 or if she's older than me, or if she's taller)
- Be able to cold approach sets

Field report journal day one

So I'm trying to cold approach atleast one girl a day but it hasn't been easy.

Although today I did kind of cold approach this girl today.

I was in the lunchroom today (I usually don't go to lunch but I wanted to sarge so I went) with my friend and we got lunch and sat down. Then I saw this girl I knew (HB9: lets call her Amanda) who when I first met her (also sort of a cold approach)last year gave me some IOIs and gave me plenty of IOIs since then. But she has a boyfriend and now she seem to have lost interest. Anyway she was sitting there with a girl talking.

Heres how it went:

I'm in the lunchroom with my friend (lets call him Craig.) We find a table and put our trays down. I see Amanda talking to this girl at the table infront of ours. I leave my tray on me and Craig's table and head over to Amanda's table.

The conversation went something like this: (I don't remember all of it and exactly how the convo went but I'll paraphrase and this is basically how the conversation went:)

Me: Hi ( highfives Amanda and sits down)
Amanda: Hi
Me to Amanda's friend : hi (a little to energeticly but with a smile)
She responds by saying hey or hi
Me to her friend (who right now is my target): What's your name?
She responds (lets call her Ashley)
We shake hands ( I just did that to have some kino, especially since kino is a bit harder to do when its daygame and your sitting next to the target)
Me: So whats going on
I forget the next part of the conversation but it was short and unimportant.
Amanda: Were sisters.
Me: Really? You guys don't look alike... actually now that I think about it you do
Ashley and Amanda say something like really?
Me: Yeah, are you guys ferternal or identical?
Amanda : Were stepsisters
Me: Oh i just thought you guys were twins
they respond with something i don't remember.
Me: Oh wow, so you seem like the nice one(to Amanda)
Amanda: Awww (in a sweet way)
Me: And you look like the bad one(to my target Ashley)
Ashley: What? Really?
Me: Yeah but that can be a good thing, like your tough. I'm like that.
Ashley: Really?
Me: Like this morning I got on the bus said good morning the bus driver didn't say say hi so I punched him in the face.
Ashley: omg, no you didn't (in a girly-interested way)
Me: Yeah like this (give her a soft light punch on the arm) only harder.
Ashley: Oh haha(giggling) shes like no you didn't (pointing at this random girl at the table who was listening in on our conversation.
Me: Haha but I better head back.
Somewhere in that conversation I asked her name again but I forget exactly when I asked.

So I went and sat back with Craig and had a conversation. Then we had to go, so as we were leaving I said bye to Amanda and Ashley and hugged Amanda (since I knew her for around a year and had allready hugged her plenty of times before) first, and then I hugged Ashley. Then me and Craig left.

Keep in mind that Amanda was into me and Ashley might have heard about me before today.


Later I wanted to do some more sarging but didn't get an opportunity (or should I say an easy oppurtunity)

Later on the bus I got on and moved back then saw a cute girl, I didn't say hi immediately so when I realized I should've approached about 30 seconds later I thought it was to late.
Pretty much AA got the best of me.

Anything I did wrong? Advice?

Journal Day 2

I was out today running an errand with my mom, and then my mom left(she was still a few feet away) and I see this HB9. I recognized her from my middle school and she got even hotter (atleast I think it was her). But so did I. I didn't approach. I don't think it had to do much with AA as it was just a really bad situation:
It was a hot day, and I was sweaty and my clothes were dirty so no peacocking there plus my mom was right there so it would be pretty awkward trying to game this girl (keep in mind my family is pretty conservative.)

But what I learned from this experience is I got to be ready to game and pick up girls no matter what the situation, so if I'm going outside and I see a cute girl I got to be ready for it ( I mean I shouldn't be peacocking and wearing like nice clothes while running a simple errand but I should atleast dress okay and smell decent.)

I think I'm gonna take a shower and get dressed and then go do some daygame.

I might post here later today.

Day 2 Part 2

Man, I struck out!

I walked outside with confidence even though inside I was feeling a little nervous. I was going to approach the first few people I saw and ask them for the time just to build up confidence. So I did that (I didn't ask any women for the time though...)

So I walked to the park, saw loads of little kids and parents...
Later I see this two set walking around 10 ft ahead of me. So I was going to approach but they were to for ahead of me to approach STRIKE ONE for me.

But later:

I saw this set of mixed guys and 2 girls that I had seen earlier. One of them was holding hands with a guy in the set. The other went to my middle school (not the same girl from my earlier story) who I didn't talk to. So anyway the group split up and my target was on her own. But she sat down on a bench with a guy who looked like he could've been her dad. STRIKE TWO!

I was getting ready to leave when I saw these two girls moving in the opposite direction (towards me) , one of whom I knew (lets call her Anita) and she's thrown me some IOIs (I think.)

Heres how it went (I don't remember exactly how it went so I might be paraphrasing.

Me: Hi, so you guys are just skipping?
Anita: Yeah (hugs me)
Anita introduces me to her friend who I don't know and I forget her name.
I stick out my hand (I think that was a mistake, too formal) and she shakes it and I tell her my name.
They start to leave. I started to move forward with them but held back ( bad move I guess it was a DLV)
Me: So, what are you guys doing
Anita: Meeting up with some guy
Me: Oh alright well I'll see ya.

STRIKE THREE and I'm out.

I start heading to the store and no cute girls inside so I left, I went to another store walk down an aisle and saw no girls and left. I then headed to a third store and there was 2 cute girls who both looked like they were older than me by some years (one looked like she could have been 18 and one could've been 20 something.)

which brings me to another point: How do I pick up a cashier and how do I pick up girls older than me (considering I look young-ish It feels a lot harder than picking up girls my age)

I looked around the aisles, no cute girls shopping, so I left without buying anything.

Then, I headed to another park (fairly small park, there was no girls so I left)

I could really use some help guys. Where can I try daygame, how can I approach girls who are older than me.

Day Three

I didn't want to go out today, but I got to keep going.
I think I'm becoming better and more confident, heck I think my walk is even starting to be more alpha, but I'm not exactly seeing much improvement. Maybe today will be my day. Hoping for a # close.
I also got to figure out how I can deal with my little kid curfew, and my overprotective family who don't really want me even socializing much let alone learning to pick up.

I don't know where exactly I'm going to go today but I might try the library or the park again. Yesterday's sarging experience makes me appreciate high school considering there's more girls I could approach, whereas in the street or in the park it's a little more difficult.

I might post here later today.


Edit: It's later. Still haven't left, I'm having some inner game problems.

First off: I gave myself a haircut (I usually do it myself, and I do it pretty good.) and it came out horrible. I mean most of it's okay but I really messed up the sides of my head and it looks horrible, it'l probably be more than a week before it starts looking decent again.

I don't think I'll go sarging today. I don't look good nor do I feel good.
So much for 30 consecutive days.


Edit:
I guess I'll have to start from day one again tomorrow, btw I'm doing a newbie 30-challenge
I'm just trying to approach at least one girl a day for now. I didn't do any approaches today so tomorrow makes: Try two day one.

I want to also try the 90-day no fap challenge. Also no porn. Which starts tomorrow also. Lastly, I want to stop cursing to ( I think this will be the hardest considering it's become such a habit.)

Habits seem hard to make, and seem even harder to break but I might as well try having some good habits.
I'm excited for daygame around school or bus stops or trains and such for tomorrow, even though I might get aproach anxiety I'm ready to give it a try again.

For now, just stick to what you are doing. . . which really has nothing to do with pick up. So get that 'I am picking up these girls' mindset out of your head. All you are doing is conversing with others and being nice. . . and we do that everyday. You don't get nervous about ordering a cup of coffee or giving an old lady directions to the movie theater. Just continue striking up conversations with others. . . get used to it. And get a whole bunch of these under your belt. Plenty of time to discuss pick up strategy later on.

Just a note that I've decided to include (not a field report)

I'm noticing myself as a bit more alpha. Before I wouldn't really consider myself alpha in most situations, unless the room was filled with extremely wimpy guys, but now I'm noticing changes in the way people are to me (maybe it's something I just noticed, but it's been happening for awhile) but I'm noticing IOI's more too, my walk is more confident, heck even the way I sit seems more relaxed and confident. I'm still struggling with approach, and inner game. I'm still having trouble opening sets where I don't know anyone, and just opening troubles.

It's not as easy as saying oh I'm just being friendly, or it's just a casual conversation for me why should I be nervous (truthfully I don't get very nervous after the opener, although there was this one time where I cold approached a girl and was nervous and awkward through the whole conversation, but most of the time I'm not very nervous.) I guess everyone learns at their own pace, but tomorrow I'm going to try get up earlier so I can make time to cold approach.

@Kasabi: Man that post held a lot of truth in it. A little bit of a downer, but definitely true that what I'm doing doesn't count as pick up. Thanks for the input though.

Hey, I'm rooting for you. . . and I think you'll figure this out. A few more pointers:

Also get the alpha/beta/omega thing out of your head; you don't need to be one thing or another. Just begin conversing with EVERYBODY. Get used to it. Talk, listen, reply. . . communicate.

There hasn't been many interactions that have been good enough for me to include here recently.
I'm getting a bit sick of highschool. I wish I had started learning PU in the beginning of the year, now I feel like it's to late in the year to try gaming girls in my classes, and lunchroom gaming is really slow. If it was earlier in the year I could have signed up for some clubs around school (now I think it's to late in the year to sign up.) I'm probably just giving the impression of a try hard loner. I wish I could switch schools and start over.

I just have to keep going... I'm becoming more confident which is a plus. I'll get the hang of it eventually.

Its a month and you have yet to reply.

Whats made you stop? Now take it and throw it out the dam window. I want you to get your dick up when you approach because you can just see yourself blowing a load all over her tits.

Also...you're in highschool. Highschool game is interesting, was only a few years ago for me. Here is a tip...a girl asks for help on something...walk over, put ur hand on her shoulder or back firmly and your other hand RIGHT ON TOP OF HER HAND, and WRITE FOR HER, USING HER HAND and HER PEN/PENCIL...What happens?

Don't pay attention to much of her, just communicate and instruct her on the issue she had, as you look into her eyes, momentarily and continue holding her hand and talking and teaching her, dont pay much attention to the fact that you are holding her, and she will feel great, why? Because it seems like it is 100% natural and okay/normal for you to do this, because you are not making it a big deal.

It works...how do I know? Because I came up with it and use it all the time ever since freshman year highschool, 7 years ago.

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I haven't really been posting in this forum for awhile actually, gonna continue this journal again hopefully monday and hopefully this time I'll get to write 30 consecutive days worth. Thanks for the advice though.