Hi Fellows,

I am new to this Forum and hoped to gain your opinions on case that is bothering me lately.
I consider myself as solid when it comes to meeting women on a nights out, however some behaviours are still a huge mistery to me. Let me tell you my story:

About a month ago I went to a club with friends. I met a very cute blonde, we instantly hit it off, danced and kissed. I escalated to the point that when it came to saying good night in front of her door, she invited me upstairs and we had incredible sex. After we were done, she mentioned the standard "you probably will not call or text me anyway...".

I decided to catch up with her the very next day (saturday), sending her a text to go out for a coffee, but she reluctantly refused (Easter preparations). I said OK and re-scheduled for tuesday. When I sent her a text that day to make sure that the date is on, she did not respond at all. Later in the evening she sent a text apologising that she could not make it because of a suden visit of old friends.

At that point I became needy without knowing it. Instead of waiting, and "penalising" her for this, the very next day I send her a text inviting her for thursday. I thought taking a rapid initiative would be a good point. I was wrong. No response. On thursday I called her (! yes, I know it sounds pathetic !) she did not answer.

My friend (and several online advisors) made me realise that I was really going too far and pressured too much instead of letting it go and provide some time spaces.

Having that in mind, I backed off for 3 weeks and sent her a simple text "Hey, do you want to meet today? I happen to have a free evening". This was sent at 3pm. Obviously (as expected) I did not receive any message back. As I woke up at 5 the following day, there was a text message awaitting. It was her. A message sent at 3.13 am stated "Hey, what are you doing now?".

Now the question is: What was that all about?? Was that a shit test? Is she playing a game of some sort, wanted to blow me off that way, or - least possible - REALLY wanted to meet in the middle of the night?

Looking forward to hear your comments!

im no pro, but this is the situation i usually land myself in most of the time. perhaps you escalated too fast with no comfort, and now shes definitely gaming/testing you. i hope to god the next text that you send her isnt a needy ass instant invite. instead build some intrigue or comfort. its never easy doin that shit over something stupid as text, so best to call her instead. don't even invite her, just talk to her - keep it fun and casual and lead the conversation to your frame and let her talk her ass off. and leave it there. shes gonna wander why there's a change and there's a slight chance she may re-initiate. its easy to get a One-itis but she knows that you are after sex. so building comfort is the key. remember that for next time. if not be happy that her decision had saved you from a oneitis and opened the floodgates to boning more girls.

your boy

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Your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your character, and your character becomes your destiny.

this means you probably sucked in bed

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When a girl sends a text "Hey, what are you doing now?" any time after 10pm it usually means only one thing!!!

BOOTY CALL

After reading your comments above, I am not sure you could have kept emotions out of it, but this girl may be a good source of future "late night" fun fests! Stay casual with her and good GOOD things will come.


Peace...

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

Guys,

Thanks for your suggestions and advices - much appreciated!

A little recap though.
As it turned out, she really is a girl that would send a text in the mddle of the night asking if you're available.
So I guess a fun type, not the one to be dated.

However, after some failed atttempts (she sent a text, I was obviously asleep, didnt answer, I sent one - she was asleep. Following day she sent one again, I replied that was out of town), she sent me a text saying that it doesnt make sense to text any longer. I just replied "OK,lets finally meet then".

Any suggestions where do I go from here? I suppose giving it few days of rest is cool, but what then? Initiate one final approach by a text in the middle of the night (I may come as too persuassive and needy), or perhaps a non-threatening approach with just initiating "normal" converstion?

All the best.

No, you put it out there that y'all should meet. Leave her be, if she is at all interested she will eventually contact you.

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood