There's this girl in my class that I see almost everyday at school. We get along well and she's shown me numerous IOI's like playing with her hair, texting me etc.The problem is that she has a bf so I haven't explicitly showed signs of interest in her other than making jokes and trying to be awesome. Anyways, we have a week off from school coming up and she goes "I bet you'll miss me" implying that I won't be able to see her for longer than the usual 2 day weekend.

What does that mean exactly? Is she saying that she knows that I like her or is it that she likes me and will actually miss me?

I know this is a noob q, but thanks for replies.

Later gentlemen!

She is inviting you to flirt with her

I would look at that girl like she is a FUCKING LUNATIC and LAUGH IN HER FACE. "Wow someone is full of herself," and then maintain eye contact with "mmhmm. yup. mmhmm," sarcastically nodding my head while she defends herself.

She's inviting you to give her attention. It's an unintentional shit test. If she was smarter she wouldn't have said that so it's not a conscious thing.

Don't be the play toy. Maintain your frame. In that, you will break hers.

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Ya I remember saying something along the lines of "whatever makes you sleep at night." I can feel she's into me, I make her laugh but she does have a bf so I don't want to end up being just the funny friend of hers yet I also don't want to pursue too aggressively and make it awkward at school as I'll be around her for the next couple years.

Any thoughts?

Dude Let it gooooooooooo...show her that you dont have time for her bull shit and chase other women if she comes looking for you tell her that you wont play second fiddle to anyone including her boy friend. I was in your shoes once but I ended up sleeping with the gir but to this day her boy friend doesnt know the problem here is that I played second fiddle and her boyfriend still has the girl..so my best advice is to let it go and not play second fiddle to NOOOO ONE.

Love this discussion because it proves how much BS the PU gurus teach.

I mean they advice to be confident, to be flirty, that cocky and funny is the way to create attraction. I'm sure I've heard the "I bet you'll miss me" from them as a bullet proof cocky funny or banter line...

Now a girl give you that line and we all have different interpretations of that line, and in some of these interpretations she ends up being a FUCKING LUNATIC full of bull shit....

I just wonder what girls think about our "clever routines", "alpha male attitude", "cocky and funny" humor, "seduction patterns" and any other PU theories that we use.

Hope this opens your eyes a little bit.

It's not about what I said as much as it is about the process behind what I said.

She says "I bet you missed me." Maybe she is right. Maybe I did miss her. If I confirm this, I reward her for her intuition, and also for having worth enough to be missed.

But really she is trying to manipulate me into giving her that value. If her intention was to find out if I thought of her while she was away, she could've asked, "Did you think of me while I was away?" Her actions tell me otherwise.

She is lying to herself and me. She is disqualified for her dishonesty. I think her feeble attempt at devaluing me through manipulation is humorous. As a side effect, she does happen to become more attracted to me whether she wants to admit to it or not, because having power over yourself is an attractive quality, and attraction is universal.

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Hmm interesting points brought up. It seems as though there might be a fine line between 'disqualifying' oneself and completely disqualifying yourself as in showing the girl so little interest that it backfires and she ends up losing attraction for you.

Shes testing your frame and flirting. You should confirm to her that you are high value and escalate.

"I bet youll miss me"

"Youre not the only girl wishing that. (Grab her hand) Seriously though - don't worry honey it will only be 2 weeks and I promise to be good" or some variation is the best response. In effect confirming your value and also escalating.

Backbone

Awesome thanks!

Recently asked her to study (actually study) on the weekend and she replied "are you asking me on a date?". Again I think this falls along the same line as before where she's testing my frame and flirting. As mentioned before she has a boyfriend so I'm not sure there's much to gain from this situation with her.

How would you guys respond to "Are you asking me on a date?"

"Your dates must be SOO much fun"

and then start accusing her of asking you on dates for regular things like going for lunch at school or speaking to her, sitting next to her.

"Hey you, what's this like our 5th date now? must be getting serious haha"

Why would you do this? She initiates flirting and you're mocking her for it? She'll think twice before ever flirting with you again.

Your last suggestion was good though. About getting more serious.

I am not worries about attracting the girl. I dont find self-absorbed women to be attractive, so if she wants to get with me she has to prove to me that she is up to my standards. Looks alone are not enough. They are one of MANY things I want in a woman. The other things, for the most part, are a choice of hers. I would rather be around and/or hook up with a super cool 7 than a 10 who was a miserable stuck up person.

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Ask her... "How much are we talkin here?" and smile and stick your tongue out at her. Don't be afraid to be playful.

Her:
I bet you'll miss me

Me:
(grab her and kiss her)
Now I will