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Alright Crypto, let me ask you then...
If this girl would continue to fuck me, then why did she flake on me yesterday? I felt that I had to NEXT just to show that I respect myself. You can't just let a woman flake on you. She flaked on me the time before we fucked, too, but at least that wasn't THE SAME DAY.
Let me elaborate. We had for several days planned on meeting yesterday, and while she teased me about perhaps not having sex, it was pretty clear she wanted to. There was still some sexual talk, and two nights before she sent me some naked pictures. But then, yesterday, she texts me that she doesn't want to come anymore, and that was that. AND she added that we should keep our distance from each other for a while.
Now, I wouldn't be surprised if she talks to me again eventually, even though I told her never to speak to me again if she flakes. But clearly this girl wants attention at least as much as she wants sex. There's also the possibility that I came off too territorial for her, but even so, there's no reason she should have waited til the very last second to suddenly change her mind. I had told her that I'd fuck her this one last time, but after that, if she sleeps with anyone else, I don't want a part of it.
So, Crypto, and all others, let me throw this out there... knowing that she flaked on me like this, do you still think I could hit it if I wanted, and how should I go about it after this amount of damage has been done? I'm not interested in dating her anymore, but I'd consider getting more sex. And I did mention to her that after all this crap, I don't really want a relationship with her, just want to play.
Edit: Let me just add that she says that the reason she flaked was because she felt pressured for sex when she was already "strongly leaning" toward being with the other guy. So, she at least is portraying herself as after monogamy, even though her actions have suggested against it and she had told me earlier that she did want to fuck me, just not exclusively. Still think I've got a shot to turn this into a fuck buddy scenario, and if so, how? It just seems to me hard to pull off this much damage control.
I should have left my original response on there and not changed it to me "nicer" comments. She flaked on you because she knows she can, she knows that you are not a good option as a FWB because you are incapable of having "meaningless sex" without any emotion involved. Notice how most of my list are speakning in past tense (other than (10.) which is intended to say that if you get another chance, Caveman Fuck her like the dirty little girl that she is! That is afterall how she wants to be pounded on! I had a girl (like the one you describe here) in New Orleans, I would have left almost any other girl I was seeing to get more of that ass, the sexual connection we had was the best of my life but we could never have been in a relationship together.
If this girl calls you up and wants to hang out, take it as an invitation to have sex and make it happen (Caveman Style), if not, then GFTOW.
Peace...
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