AT some point someone had to cold approach.

That cold approach led to a friendship. That friendship cold approached another friend. Those guys cold approached the other guys.

Eventually a social circle is born.

Then you hit on girls in your social circle and call it social game.

The fuck?

I don't understand how to "social game" in college. Whether you are approaching a girl (meeting/talking to her) in a class, at a party, at a social event, or on the street--there is no difference. None whatsoever. At a party it's even more difficult because they're all validation bitches.

My cold approaches go horribly, but that's because my game is general is bad--I had a social circle this year and I tried to fuck 10+ girls and failed with them all. I had a good rep, everyone in my dorm talked to me, I was going to parties, etc.

None of that shit got me laid.

I don't see how social game or cold approach game even exist--it's all just talking to people.

What stupid fuck came along and said, "Hey, let's break the natural order of things and label people who talk to strangers weird."

Thus the majority of people on the street walk around looking depressed, unable to look people in the eye, and get freaked out when anybody so much as says, "Hi" to them.

IF YOU HAVE GOTTEN LAID AT LEAST 20+ TIMES FROM SOCIAL CIRCLE:

Then please tell me how this is any different than cold approach.

OTHERWISE:

Please do not comment in this thread. You have NO experience, I don't care what you've read.

Social approaches are obviously easier because they can see how people respect you, and you don't have to try to show them that you're a god in human form because they've already witnessed it for themselves. The downside is that if you actually suck as a person, they'll know that too.

Cold approaches show that you're confident and fearless. Its downsides are that, as described above, they have no way of knowing if you're actually successful or a total loser.

With that said, I have only ever had one successful "truly cold" approach where I didn't know her at all. Other than that, every single one of my successes have been in my social circles. It started with one girl desiring me, then the rest followed suit. It's kind of amazing how effective it is, really.

You said you don't have luck with that approach. Can you explain a typical example of what happens to you? Maybe it's something that can be fixed.

I went for girls in my social circle that I was attracted to and thought were attracted to me, and they rejected my advances.

Also, everyone in my social circle stopped inviting me to parties and acted odd when I was around. I was actually the circle's instigator and I was the one who tried to get the guys to loosen up at parties.

In class, I'd sit down next to girls and have conversations. Normal convos, but I'd be cooler and flirtier. Then next time I'd see the girl she would ignore me unless I said something. This is the case in all my classes for all this year--I'd say 90% of the time I walk into a room I have to the be one to greet somebody.

What's odd is that many times they don't seem to dislike me--but it's like I must be the pursuer. There's this girl I started talking to in my class a couple of weeks ago and I flirted but she just laughed a lot and didn't give me anything back. She doesn't sit with me.

Girls don't ask for my name, when I try to meet them in class it's like I'm some weirdo for talking. I had one good conversation at the beginning of the year, and that's about it.

So after my social circle kicked me out for reasons unknown and went to a party without me in front of my face, I decided I gave too much of a fuck. I also eventually started talking to girls that I was attracted to wherever I saw them, because there was no reason not to.

In all honesty, I don't even know what social game is. I can read it about it online but still not understand it. It's all just meeting people--cold approach as a concept doesn't seem like something different. Whether you are prior introduced to someone or not, if you want to meet somebody you oughta talk to them, correct?

I had another social circle that seemed to blow me out as well--I got along great with this one guy and thought we were gettin to be buddies but after a while of talking to him he got more distant. There was a girl in that circle that I knew was interested in me and I fucked up really bad by getting oneitis.

Now that I think about it, girls in general never flirt or initiate any sort of sexual interest in me--it's like my entire life I have been living under this little veil of irony where I think girls are into me and people are into me and I just do what normal people do and then I get abandoned. Happened in high school too, and I was a loner then.

Here is my problem: I am incapable of making lasting relationships of any kind. It's getting to the point where I'm having trouble talking to people. I just don't care.

How did you meet this one girl? What is a social circle? How did these other people know this girl and how did they find out you slept with her? How can I have the same results? It sounds to me like social game is just getting girls through prior introduction by a third party.

Let me explain: I don't mean I don't understand the concept of people knowing each other, and that is a social circle. I guess I don't understand how that functions in game--at some point to get girls you want you must cold approach or else someone else must introduce you. But if I'm never gonna get introduced to girls I want, then I'm going to approach them.

This sounds like such an AFC complainer post, but it's a legitimate problem--people just don't seem to like me. And posting on a PUA forum is probably not the best place to go to fix this.

I do cold approaches everyday. PUA is seamlessly integrated into my lifestyle. I don't wear a PUA hat. Those girls I cold approach and cannot bang within 24 hours, I LJBF them and sarge them through propinquity. They now form part of my social circle. I get invited a lot to weddings, baptisms, birthday parties, prayer meetings, or just plain hangouts.

I've banged cousins, best friends, a niece and her aunt, a mom and her 18 year old daughter, someone's classmate, someone's neighbor, guests in parties, office mates, a few of a teacher's students, work mates... you name it, I've got it. The only girls that I haven't banged yet are nuns. They're too fucking difficult to sarge.

I think your problem is patience and the lack of will to invest time and effort in something productive like banging pussies.

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