Hello,

I am really thankful that I found this forum I am simply ready for a change in my sexual trends and encounters with women. So I've been using some of the techniques such using negs, cocky funny approach and so on, but my main problem I found is after I have opened a set what do I say for example a simple two set I approached this past weekend with the "Jealous girlfriend" opener. It was interesting to see their response and they were definitely hooked when i introduced it but the energy died after I couldn't keep up with the conversation. So my first question is what do I do to escalate attraction after I open to get them hooked and start giving me kino, IOIs and things of that nature. Secondly, what would be your best tip to get rid of "approach anxiety" the three second rule helps but you still have that strange gut feeling. I'm currently going through the "Rules to the Game" program and its forcing me out of my comfort zone, but my fear of approach is what is holding me back I feel like I'm taking a step forward and a step back at the same time.


Thanks

The Rules of the Game is a good program for beginners. Without spoiling much, basically it sets up a logical gradual progression to be more confident with women, and developing your own game/routine. That being said, approach anxiety doesn't fade away with a special mindset or a few tricks, it comes from experience. On a strictly numbers basis, the more girls you approach, the more success you will have. The confidence to overcome approach anxiety comes with feedback from your environment. Over time you realize that you can get what you want in life "women" if you simply reach out and take it. It is about being dominant. As far as the issue regarding the opener, once they are already hooked, start taking about the girls and encourage them to talk. Lead the conversation, but allow them to express themselves. Everyone knows girls love to talk more than guys.

My wing and I have a mantra when we go out. It all ends badly. We know that we are going to get rejected at some point, or never see the girl again after a one night stand, or we are going to grow old and eventually die. Everything good comes to an end.

Learn to deal with rejection and to be free of outcome.

When you open a set don't think "My goal is to fuck the set." Think "My goal is to open the set. My goal is to try this with the set."

Also, we often warm up on less attractive girls. That same mindset will end up working on the hot girls. That mindset is "Hey, I'm a social guy who hasn't pre-qualified you for anything but this conversation. Where social proof comes into play, you were talking with girls who were not attractive, so you're obviously just looking to be social.

That notion gets the guard down. Once their guard is down it's game on.


More advanced people put the game on and plow through the guard, but that's for another day.

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The guys that are good at the game, like _Lotahrio_ don't worry much about getting girls, if you are doing things right the girls will fall into place. This often means not doing much besides having fun and being social. Using game is great, but you cannot fool mother nature. The alpha males get laid. Game is a good resource to fall back on, but more importantly develop good social, networking, and conversational skills. Getting girls is secondary to having fun and developing as a man.

The lady's man is a social man. The man's man is a lady's man.