Hi all, long time lurker, first time post. I wasn't sure what forum to post this in, but I figured this was the most appropriate. Preface: I have already slept with this girl once, I'm just not sure where I stand now.

So this is the story, in summary. I meet this girl on OkCupid, HB9. Game her a bit, she sends me some nice pics. We have phone sex a few times; she tells me that I got her off faster than any guy ever has. We talk about hanging out, but of course she qualifies that some too. At one point she said she had lost interest in me and wanted another guy (this was before the phone sex), but I managed to motivate her to meet me (post phone sex).

So, we meet up yesterday. She's taunted me quite a bit before showing up, kind of a push/pull mechanic, saying how she wanted me to get STD tested before sex, but also talking about how she wants to feel my c*ck, etc. When we actually meet, though, she immediately pulls me in, kisses me, and has me finger her p*ssy (yes, outside, on the street... it actually freaked me out). So we go in and have sex. At first it's a little awkward because her body type is unlike my ex's and mine is unlike her ex's. I'm playing "how can I fit this in the hole", start getting soft and she threatens to have lost interest and to leave; I convince her to stay and start f*cking her hard, she loves how big my d*ck is and she cums twice back to back. She told me that I'm the best d*ck she's had inside her. Once we found a good angle on top, she actually pushed me in with no wrapper and started riding... she had teased before she'd only let me put in the tip.

Now, here's where I'm starting to get lost. After sex, she starts saying that she actually isn't attracted to me, that she's sorry she might have screwed up my chances with another girl who I know likes me, and mentions possibly meeting up with the guy she talked about before. Says she just wants to be my friend. But as she does all this, she's still kissing me, pulling my hands onto her breast, telling me she wants me to finger her. I say that I don't believe her: if she wasn't attracted to me, she wouldn't be acting this way. And I say that I can't control her, if I'm not really what she wants that's not up to me. She starts getting upset, saying "didn't you tell me you can be kind of territorial?" (we had talked some about exes), so I laughed and pointed out how ridiculous it is for her to get mad that I'm not jealous when she doesn't see me as anything other than a friend. I start run my hand across her face, she licks my thumb, and then it's on, I'm finger fucking her, I ask if she'll be mine and she says yes.

But today, it's like we're back to square one. Here again she's saying that she doesn't want to be anything more than friends. I don't know how to interpret all this. Clearly she is a little screwed up... but still. Any advice, guys?

Sounds like a hint of oneitis. As far as I'm concerned, you've hit a home run with her and got your dinky stinky. Why are you still hung up on her? You've crossed her off the list and she isn't into you she says. I think she says that just to hear you say that you like her. She seems emotionally unstable what with the back and forth feelings. My advice, keep her in your phone, and talk to her when she talks to you first. Never you first. If anything, you could be her booty call, how can that be a bad thing? Another word of advice, after you've fucked her, I think you should get checked broski. I'm sure you've said things to her that you've said to other girls, so don't think she hasn't said anything that she has said t you, to other guys. My all time favourite is "I've never done anything like this so fast with a guy before." Ya sure thing lady are you trying to convince me, or yourself? All in all, find your next lady to work on, and let her think about you when she needs a dicking, and give it to her if she asks for it, all while you're sargin' other girls. Win/win

Yeah, you have got a point. I could have played it better, but that's more or less what I elected to do: I told her that I liked her, and that I wasn't interested in being just a friend, it would do me more harm than good. I said to hit me up if she changes her mind. She did text me late last night saying sorry for how she treated me, so I said back yeah it was f*cked up, she should make up for it in bed and that I wasn't gonna wait on her to find some ladies She hasn't responded to that yet, so who knows. My bet? I'll hear from her by Sunday. Just as long as I don't break my frame of mind...

man dont get hung up on this chick, be a fucking dick to her get your dick wet and thats it. she sounds like a crazy bitch that you wouldn't want for the long run anyway.

Ya man, she wants to be the one that you run after but don't be. Let her come to you now, you're the authority because you've been with her already. Anytime afterwards is bonus because she doesn't seem like the type to have a stable relationship with.

She said something that made me furious (she joked about sleeping with another girl I have an interest in; she's bi) and after that somehow I lost sight of all rationality, got pissed at her, and started chasing her. I think my one ride will have been my last ride: I don't think I can recover from that one. I just can't believe how I reverted to total AFC behavior for a girl that isn't really worth any heartache. It's just that her sex appeal was crazy: not only was she good-looking, but she smelled good, her saliva tasted good, and she loved sex VERY rough, just like me. I left her with 7 big purple hickies up her neck and face. I gamed really well before I f*cked her, but it totally deteriorated after I slept with her. Definitely got a case of oneitis. I'm sure there is a lesson in this, but I'm not sure what it is.

I think she does have some serious daddy and self-esteem issues, so she may come round again... but even in that unlikely scenario, should I do anything with it, or since I seem to be out of my depth on this one, just let it slide? I don't want to end up losing my head, the sex isn't worth it.

But at the end of the day, who knows what her statements meant. I have a really hard time believing that if she truly wanted me, she would put up THAT much resistance. I have a hard time believing what she said is the truth, because there's too many contradictions. I think she's just a little crazy.

Bro, your oneitis is getting the better of you. Cut her out and move on. You got what you came for, now pack up shop and ditch ASAP.

This girl is trouble. Shes going to ruin you if you stick around. GFTOW

Peace

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Yeah man, you're right, I need to get out now. Every time I think it's over she pulls me back in, she knows what she really wants... I'm out of my depth here. I'm not playing her, she's playing me! Her game is stronger, haha.

Yea man. Its happened to me countless amounts of times. So I would hate to see you do the same mistakes I did. (It still happens to be honest, but I need to keep reminding myself that theres plenty of fish in the ocean)

Just freeze her out permanently and pick up where you left off. I feel women naturally have better game than all men. They play around with us, and when they get bored, they dump us like we are nothing. So now its time to take the initiative and do that for yourself.

Take care!

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It's a simple shit test, plain and simple!!
...and you failed all the way!! I can't believe it, I even had to register just to tell you this.

Why didn't you agree and made a game of it:

"Yeah, you're definitely right, we even don't have anything in common, your tongue is way too wet and soft for me, your nose is in the way all the time, your boobs and nippels are so hard, they are punching marks into me.
And the sex isn't sex, ist just orgasm after orgasm, that's frightening!"
Of course, while talking, kiss her, kiss her nose, press her boobs and give her orgasms.

Then continue: "Ok now what's bothering you? Show me!"

Let her show you and enjoy!

All I read was the possibility of a threesome tossed away like it happens everyday lol.

Yeah, I see what you guys mean about the shit test / threesome possibility. In fact, she has *directly* mentioned the possibility of a threesome. But I want to point out some things:

(1) It may be that she is shit-testing me about this other guy, but I don't think it's *just* that. She did hook up with him before we hooked up, even if (supposedly) not all the way. And while we're meeting again tomorrow, she has plans to stay with him this upcoming weekend. That may be serving the purpose of a shit-test, but it definitely is *NOT* only a shit-test. So I feel like I should take the issue somewhat seriously, show an interest in her but avoid coming off as jealous or lacking in options.

The attraction issue, though, is a shit-test. I don't really make a joke about it, I just say "yeah right" and get her wet and horny after nowadays.

(2) I've shown interest in threesomes with her, it's just that I genuinely care about that girl and know that she has very strong feelings for me. A threesome would /not/ be good for her, so I got protective, even if unnecessarily so.

The problem is that even though I'm more detached than before, I can still feel a creeping oneitis. Clearly this is not going to work as a relationship. I have no doubts that she's going to sleep with that other guy, or at least that she legitimately wants to. It's not merely a test. If I'm going to keep doing this, I can't get emotionally involved. Unless she does some kind of about-face and professes loyalty to me. She has said that she envisions herself picking one guy, but still, I have a feeling she's going to follow through and sleep with him before making any final decisions.

Seriously though, it's annoying. I'm starting to lose interest.

She checked if you are just cool or awesome cool.

But now I'm afraid she enjoys to see you suffer...

You genuinely care for her? She wants to play and not been taken care of!

Get out with another girl and make sure she knows about the new girl.
That's the only way to turn it around...

I'd have to say the above is right. After all that mixed tension and build-up, she decides to flake. I'm done with this girl. Hard NEXT.