I'm a freshman in college and second semester I met a pretty cute girl (especially for my college where there aren't many attractive girls) and we started talking. We grew really close pretty fast and there was mutual love. We kissed (my first kiss) went on dates and definitely grew to the point where we were more than friends but at the same time best friends. She was molested by her step-dad, so she wasn't into sex or a relationship, but we did stuff.

Then news came out that she was hooking up with my friend, and that she had lied to both of us about what the other one was (said other person was just a friend, nothing going on, etc). That sucked and I was mad at her for a good while but we still talked. Anyway, theres been a few bad moments, but she's extremely smart, beautiful, and caring (minus that incident). She says she isn't ready for a relationship and after what happened (and everyone around our social circle knows) she doesn't want to kiss or do any sexual stuff.

I'll admit I care so much about her as a person, but think of her as more than a friend and still love her. I have oneitis, anyone know how to move on? I know the summer is coming up and there will be separation and new girls then, but my college is filled with a lot of nerds and then alcoholic whores and she was something different (didn't drink much and had morals and I liked that). I've been looking elsewhere for about two months when things started heading south between us, but haven't found anyone.


Sorry if this is the wrong sub-forum, didn't really see where to post

I posted something similar to you. From personal experience I can tell you that it does get better, it just takes a long time. I feel like I have a hole in heart and I keep filling it with more girls that I do not care for emotionally. Slowly but surely the hole gets smaller, and you start to feel better.

Once you come to terms and find meaning in situations like these that is when you start to feel better. When you begin to see how this had made you stronger and in some way a better person things slowly start to improve. Find and heal yourself before you try to find that next special someone.

Move on man. She's playing you and your friend and you think she's a nice girl ? There's plenty of girls everywhere you just gotta put in the effort to meet them.

Ya you're right, she certainly has a lot of flaws that I realized while being with her. I guess the two things keeping me from immediately holding on is that she was my best friend and I have feelings for her still (typical AFC move I'm guessing) and at my college there really aren't many attractive girls and finding a new one has been hard so far.

The longer you hold on to her, the harder it is going to be for you to find a new girl.

Go find women from outside college. Best way to over this would be to FTOW(Fuck Ten Other Women).

Show her that you are moving on. Which will force her hand to give you a straight response if she wants to pursue you or not which help for closure.

Thanks, thats the plan for the summer- have a week of classes and then finals so I'm gonna hit the books and then hopefully have better luck this summer.

It sucks because I still want her, but I'm guessing thats because she was the first girl that I ever got with. Is this normal?

count this as a refernce experience and watch this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GdnYedTpToA

legit video

The video nails it