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This a shit test? Not sure how to respond on this one . . .
Basically came up she thinks I just want to hook up and "use her as a stepping stone" = then she tells me that her ex that she broke up with, has been trying to get back with her, and that she's actually considering it, but she doesn't give second chances.
I didn't know how to respond so just totally ignored it with "hey whatever" ...
Sounds like a bit of a shit test, but girls are vulnerable to getting back together with ex's, so you can never be too careful.
I might have gone with something like "Hey, you gotta do what you gotta do, but I've always lived by the mentality that you break up with someone for a reason." or something like that. Add a bit to it, maybe something like "You're young, and there so many opportunities you can explore, why go back to what you've already had?"
See what she responds. If she agrees, it was probably a shit test. If she tries to rationalize the decision, she's probably not lying.
Hopefully she'll try and rationalize to you why she wants to get back together, and you can use this opportunity to get information about her ex, and more importantly, how she reacts to being treated certain ways. What did he do that she didn't like? What did she like? Etc. Learning about a girl's ex can provide valuable insight into how you can get in close with her. Be careful, you don't want to be too friendly and too comforting, or you'll get friendzoned. Get your information, and back off. Say you have to go run some errands or make an important call or something like that. You have the potential for an information goldmine, but whatever you do, don't get friendzoned. On the same note, don't be a cold-hearted bastard either lol.