| S.A.A.R.S.T. stands for "Suave as a Really Suave Thing."
Day 0 - About Me
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I'm a male. I'm 28 years old. I weigh 180 lbs. I'm 6'0". I have long brown hair. I live in a small, dead-end town and I prefer to drive out to bigger cities in order to meet women. I'm about a 5/10; lower to women that don't like my type, higher to women that do. When I was younger (21), I was a 6/10 and when I was much younger (18), I was a 7/10. Too bad I was excruciatingly shy and introverted back then. Right now, I'm only a little shy and a lot less introverted, but embarrassed that I've barely been "out and around" my whole life and that I'm very inexperienced.
I've only been laid twice. I lost my virginity to a 7/10 (beautiful face, kind of short, average build - not quite chubby, but not quite skinny, long black hair, c-cup boobs, art-chick style) at age 21. She was my first girlfriend that lasted longer than a week and only the second girl I'd ever kissed. We started having sex after being together and month and she broke up with me after 4 months and a week. I most recently had sex with a 6/10 (average face, but cute smile, unappealing short haircut, dyed red-ish hair, short and skinny, petite body, b-cup boobs, very simplified country girl style) at age 26. She was my second girlfriend that lasted longer than a week and only the third girl I'd ever kissed. We started having sex after being together a month and I broke up with her after 6 months and 2 weeks.
Since age 20, I've had a little bit of knowledge about the PUA community. I read quite a bit of stuff here and there online back then. I never went out into the field with it, but I tried it where I was comfortable - online. I got pretty good at it when there was a screen between myself and the hot babe and I had as much time as I needed to think up the perfectly flirtatious and scandalous thing to say. I did have chicks out there wanting my dick, but they all lived far away and my facade eventually crumbled before all of them because inside, I still had very little confidence and I was extremely needy at that time.
Recently, I started reading PUA stuff again. Nowadays, a person can actually walk into Barnes N' Noble and buy "The Game" by Neil Strauss and/or "The Mystery Method" by Mystery. I'm about 30 pages into reading "The Game" and I still read lots of articles and blog posts online. I've been keeping a personal journal about all of the steps (approach, flirt?, kino, isolate, phase-shift, close) to seduce a woman so I can learn it in my mind and then practice it in the field.
Day 1 - The College Town Bar
I had never been into a bar by myself. I had never been in this bar. I had never drank at a bar before. I rarely drink anyways. I can count how many times I've drank a glass/can/bottle of beer on one hand.
This all happened on Saturday. It was a college-aged bar in a college town. Though not a huge bar, it was packed. I am so not used to going in to bars, the bouncer actually had to call me back as I was walking towards the door so he could check my ID. I walked in and was completely out of place. I'm not college-aged and I don't go to bars and I barely ever drink. I pulled aside the first guy I saw with long hair, he was about mid-way drunk because it was already late (11:30 pm, bar closed at 3:00 am), and I told him I'd never been to this place before. I asked him to recommend me a drink. He just pointed. I couldn't read it from across the bar, but I told the bartender that's what I wanted and I pointed to it. I got my beer and the long-haired guy was already gone. So I just mingled there very uncomfortably for awhile and sipped on the beer. Thankfully, he eventually came back in after about 10-15 minutes. I pulled him aside again and asked if he had a group and if I could hang with them and if he could show me the ropes a little bit.
He lead me over to a table at the corner of the bar. He had a few friends hanging out over there and he introduced me to them. He said "if you're looking to just get laid, I know a girl here who is known to really sleep around." He found her and introduced me to her. Coincidentally,it was the first girl I was when I walked in to the bar. She was a 6/10 and not inebriated. Shy had that "shy on the outside, wild on the inside" thing going on and it was pretty clear to me that she wanted confident, wild, inebriated bad boys. I was none of those things. She basically walked away right after I had a chance to say "hello." So, I settled in and talked to the long-haired guys group.
I got to talking to one of the guy's friends who had short red hair. The long-haired guy was getting pretty smashed at this point. The red-haired guy was pretty entertained by a funny story I told. He asked if I smoked and if wanted to hang outside with him for a minute while he smoked. I don't smoke. I've smoked about 3 cigarettes before in my entire life and I've never finished one. I told him I only smoke occasionally and that I don't inhale it all the way in because I don't want to get addicted. He said that was fine, he just wanted someone to talk to outside. So, I smoked a cigarette with him outside and told him another funny story, this one involving my "fear of flirtation." I can talk to women these days, but I have a hard time getting myself to flirt. I told him about a situation that seemed destined to lead to me getting laid, but instead lead to me getting blown off. It was still an entertaining story in a "that bitch!" sorta way.
After we went back inside, the red-haired guy and the long-haired guy pretty soon went off somewhere. I figured that meant it was time for me to approach a girl. I saw an 8/10 walking around by herself. She was short and very cute with big brown eyes. She had medium-length brown hair and looked about 18, despite the fact that she was in a bar. I walked up to her and introduced myself. She was friendly and not at all bothered by me approaching her. Unfortunately, I couldn't get up the nerve to flirt with her and she spoke very softly, so I could barely hear her anyways and had to ask her to repeat a lot of things. I first asked if she could step back a few steps with me so we could hear each other talk. That didn't work much. We talked about video games (she brought it up) for a few minutes and then I asked her if she wanted to sit down so we could focus on being able to listen to each other talk. She politely declined and said she had to go find some friends of her. I said that was okay and that it was nice meeting her. I went back over to the table I was at with the guys I'd met. They had just gotten back. I told them that I approached the girl and how it went. About a minute later, I saw the girl I'd just talked to leave. I think she was with other females. I was sitting right near the exit, so she saw me and waved, saying it was nice to meet me. I waved back and said the same thing.
After that, I got up the guts to go talk to another girl. She was a 6/10 and was sitting alone. She was VERY uncomfortable when I approached her. I introduced myself, but because she was so put-off I clammed up and couldn't think of anything to say other than the pathetic "so how often do you come here?" After less than a minute, I told her it was nice meeting her and I went back to the table I was at. When it was getting pretty close to closing time, I approached one last girl. She was a 7/10 and was dancing. I walked up to her and said "You looking to share a dance with anyone?" She said "Nope." And then her female friend, a 3/10, got up next her and said "Sorry, she's dancing with me!" I said something dumb like, "Are you sure? She said she's not dancing with anyone" and then walked back to the table I was at. Another guy that was at the table with his girlfriend was laughing his ass off at how pathetic that was. However, later he apologized when he sobered up. I went with the group I'd just met (3 guys, as mentioned, and one girl; the guy I just mentioned had his girlfriend with him) to a pizza place after the bar closed and we talked about movies and stuff. Then everyone left and went their separate ways and I got everyone's contact info. They all said it was cool meeting me and that I should come into town more often.
So, I succeeded at making friends and having a relatively good time. Those are two things I've generally always been able to do. I did not succeed at picking up women, but there will be a next time. My small, real and achievable goal was to simply approach a few women and flirt with them. Instead, I approached and just talked to them. Next time I go out, my goal will be to flirt. I'm thinking I should test things out at a non-college bar, so I won't feel or seem out of place.
Thank you for reading. Thoughts, everyone? _________________ Smooth As A Really Smooth Thing.
"This post is published for anyone that's listening/This post is for the broken-spirited man/This post is for anyone left standing/After the strain of a slow, sad end."
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