Hi

I've been a lurker here for a while. I'm not especially proficient with PUA and still pretty new to it... But learning and I find this forum to be a great resource. Some very knowledgable posters here.

I'm looking for an opinion on the best way to approach this - I'll try to keep it short while not leaving out relevant details. I am also very aware of the pitfalls and opinions on inter-office dating. Have done it before and I am ok with the risks.

- I work at a large company in a mid-senior level
- The girl I'm interested in works there as well at a lower level. Different dept, same floor - there is no chance I will ever be managing this person - I'm 100 percent positive (completely different fields of work).
- We've been out in group settings, gotten along great. Flirted, kino, etc. nothing more though, really.
- This is all relatively new (a few weeks we've been talking and hanging out) - despite the fact we have worked together for a few years. It has not been really frequent but it has been consistent lately - whether it's emails or quick chats or going out with a group.
- She shows signs of interest, some IOIs but is really difficult to read. A few other coworkers have noticed too however, so I'm not nuts (hopefully). Some of her work friends say she doesn't pick up in signals or signs very well and I may have to be blunt with her (which may be an idea - and is why I'm throwing this out there).
- The same other coworkers have also said she MAY have reservations about dating at work.
- She's a HB7.5 (sometimes an . I'm told I am a 7

Hopefully this is enough information. My question is: is direct approach the best way to go here? Will something work better? If so.... How direct? Are we talking "we should go out" direct, or are we talking "I like you and think you're interesting - I'd like to try and take it up a level" type of approach?

Any thoughts on the best/most effective way to put this?

It's not a real difficult situation admittedly - the coworker aspect just makes me doubt myself somewhat so I'm going for a second opinion with the people of this forum

Thank you for reading. I appreciate it!

You got ioi's but your still not confident enough. Co workers gave u the green light but ur not confident enough.
The problem here isnt want to say, its how your goin to say it. You obviously need to work on your inner game as well to build more confidence. This is an easy approach. Ask her out on a single lunch date durig work one day. Take advantage of this time to chat her up some more, be a bit more direct and see how she reacts/responds

What Darkie said. (That sounds kinda racist lol)

Get some one-on-one 'casual' time with her (like lunch at work) and try and get a better reading of how to play it. When you're alone, there is less social pressure and she is more likely to act herself. If she is being flirty and giving you IOIs, then just man up and ask her out. In person though, always in person.

If she isn't being flirty, or you can't pick up on her IOIs, then try something like "I think you're a really interesting person, and I would love to get to know you outside of the office. Would you want to get together sometime? Maybe grab dinner and/or a show?" Assuming what you say about her being interested is true.

Sounds to me like all the pieces are in place, you just gotta work up the courage and ask.

Thank you so much for the feedback guys. Darkie (yes it does sound racist!) you nailed it. Inner game work is necessary.

I appreciate your comments guys. Thanks very much.

hahaha! no prob, thats wat the forum is for but yea i should change my forum name lol..