Iv been seeing this girl for 5 months already. We were close from beginning, but i mess up and went to far to fast. For some reason she still wanted to see me few times a week.

Now everything changed. She was at my place saying that she don't know it she feels sth, and after so long she should.. She still stayed at me place for night, we and up in my bed. She was saying things like she don't understand and don't know what to do...
She decided that we cant have sex anymore and its better to be friends.



I told her that i can see us in such situation, and if she want to be friends i cant give her that because i want more. So i told her we cant contact.

She texted me few minutes after she went out that
I didnt texted her back. After a day she texted again that
After few days I texted her sth like that:
She replied The problem was the i always wanted her more. So when we've been together I always hug her kiss...

She said that it was to much for her, and it was even annoying.
I didnt give her a chance to chase me almost ever.

Her reason for stop sleeping:
- it cant look like that anymore
- i don't feel what i should feel after so long
- she said that she love spending time with me
- that sex is amazing but its no enough.
- that she should miss me but she don't
- she should want to see me more often


What can i do know? Should i wait, should i answer to her last message?

It is quite simple...

You respect her decision to break up and stop having sex with you... She cant respect your decision to not have contact with her.

She is quite selfish, dont you think... But truth is: She wants you around as safety net before she finds some new guy... She simply easing up for her feelings, not giving any consideration to yours...

In my opinion, just ignore her... She doesnt want you as boyfriend or fwb but you want her... So if you keep contact and stay close, it will be very painful experience.

Good luck

harare i appreciate Your point of view.

She means a lot to me.I won't surrender till last bridge burn ...

I feel like there is still much to do. That i can win her over. She was not sure about her feeling she didn't know what to think about us.

And will all know that this forum is not for quitters.

What can i do? I am not masochist to clarify

i never said you need to surrender or give up... Actually your first moves are quite good in my opinion...

You simply cant give up to any her demands to remain in contact beacuse it will only get you friend zoned and then you are painfully doomed...

Ok she cant accept to be unable to talk to you again, so you have to stick with your decision that you cant accept to remain in contact as friend...

I know you desperately want to be able to make some moves to fix it, but there are none...


you stated your terms, and now it is her move to accept it or not...
So, keep ignoring (or at least reply short and without any deep thoughts and emotions) her texts, as long as they are pointless and not stating that she made mistake and want you back...

She dumped you so she have to make and earn her way back, otherwise it wont work...


btw. sry for my english

Thanks I will do that! Yeah You are right i desperately want to do sth, but i know i have to wait...

Do You think i should replay sth to her message?

He's completely right, no contact with this chick and game other girls.

You already told her that you need your space and time now... Why to repeat it? She initiated this situation, now you have to let her see consecvence of her action, in other words she have to get scared of loosing you for good...

And as well you have to accept fact that she might not coming back, but more important to make in your mind that it will not devastate you...

Getting ex back is really slow process (expect months, and even if she wants to come back, you have to play her for at least month or so... if you fall easy, same shit will happen again in matter of weeks)...

So, sum of all wisdom is: You do NOTHING, no matter what heart tells you, no matter the urge to talk, see, whatever her... Just live your life, like you did before you met her... Every other move you make, no matter how smart you think it is, is a WRONG move and you will regret for making it...

harare

Thank you for taking time to read and tell me what You think. I will do what You said its is exactly what i wanted to do. I needed someone to tell me that. Heart says one thing mind says another.

Thank You again for sharing Your wisdom!

You are welcome

Been there, doing what heart said and it was disaster
Started to listen advices from people who been through and it did miracles

And then stopped listening so everything collapsed

So, life is a learning on yours and others mistakes...
Good luck

I know what you mean. You have to always keep your guard up. And remember that the game is there even if we are not aware of it.

She texted me again
I know i have to keep calm distant. How should i answer?

Have you read the other posts? Ignore her NO CONTACT delete her number and move on