This HB8, "supposely" a good girl, i've been seeing her for the 3rd time already. More like hangouts then dates since she already has a BF, yet she is still down to see me on the weekends... I been touching her thighs even when she wore dresses, holding her hands when I lead her somewhere, touching her hair, briefly putting my arm around her waist, etc. But this time, when we were sitting, I put my arm around her waist for an extensive time and tried to sit much closer to her, she grabbed my hand and placed it down... I haven't been able to figure out what she really wants out of this. (sex, friendship, ???). At times I think she's attracted to me and grinds on me on the dance floor, make seductive eye contact, but other times she distances herself physically from me and acts just like a plutonic friend. I have not verbally showed my intention, just kino escalation and seductive eye contacts. By the way, this 3rd time, some guy actually got her # while we were in a night club. When I saw that, I showed no jealousy and decided to dance with other girls in the club...

Any help as what the best course of action would be appreciated. Normally I'd be able to see how attracted a girl is and at least make out with her by day one, this one I haven't figured out... Only kiss close I've been giving her have been on the cheek...

Don't dance with the other girls just because she gives her number out.

Best,
Mag

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I disagree. Dancing with other girls will show DHV. But what I think Magnum is getting at is that you can't make it look like you are smiting her. It's much better to be busy opening up a set or proving social worth than to stand by and watch. I would try isolating her more. Go out with her alone or invite her to your place if possible. Don't take her to bars/clubs where her BF or anyone she knows may run into her. It sounds like she enjoys the attention, just get her alone and pull the trigger.

There you'll never know until you try something make sure you escalate first though

This is excellent advise. I should isolate her to my house... I'm going to next time.

Dude, just to get your head straight here. This chick has a BF. Most girls in this world are not comfortable with some other guy touching them up when they have a BF because guess what, they're in a relationship. That said, there are some that cheat.

Now it sounds to me like she likes the attention but doesn't want anything more. But should you really be spinning your head about this? No. All that you should care about is what YOU can control. So what CAN you control? Yourself, what you do, your actions and words. That's all you should focus on. What you want and the actions towards that. Now, if you want sex here, what's the thing you can control? Taking action towards that and staying congruent to it. Remember, being congruent is what's important, even if she calls you a creep, you stick to your guns and say "Hey, I'm attracted to you, and there's nothing anyone can really do about that, unless of course you start stuffing yourself and put on 100lbs". However, that also being said, make sure you are willing to let her go, too. She's got a BF. Don't just expect her to hop into bed with you. She may not even really be that attracted to you, just want the attention. But maybe she is...see it's pointless thinking about it. But just take into account that she does have a BF and that it might not work, in which case you have to accept it and move on.

I'd say get her alone and make the move. Escalate and make the move. Your escalation should be both physical and in the vibe. If you notice mutual attraction and a window of opportunity, either voice that you want to go for a kiss ("I can't stop thinking about kissing you right now") and if she complies, kiss her. If she doesn't comply, that's not a no, it's just resistance (if she stays it's just resistance). But if it's a definitive no, then don't do it. But that's really all you can do. Control what you can do. And now do it.

Good luck.

Thanks bro. I'm going to just go for it. Tired of the mixed signals that caught me off guard, but I don't care at this point.

Good advice is given here , let us know what happens !