Well, this is my first post and I have been contemplating making an account on here for a while now. I'm a bouncer at a local bar and I met this 21 year old, sexy, little, blonde college chick a few weeks ago. We were chatting for a little bit and I asked if she had a boyfriend. She responses with "no", so then I said "good now we can go out one night, what's your number?" She grabbed my phone and typed her number into it. A few minutes after that, her ride was leaving and she gave me a hug. 15 minutes after she left she text me "Hi". I took a long time between my responses and gave her a few words response. A few days later she texted me saying: "So when am I going to see you again?" I responded with "How about Tuesday night, let's go out for a drink?" She responded "I would loveeee that Text me tomorrow and I'll give you my address"

So almost 24 hours goes by and I text her saying "Hey. Where do you live?" 3 hours went by and I did not receive a response. Then, she eventually said that she got really sick and wouldn't wanna go out tonight. She also said "I would feel much better if you were here rubbing my back". I took the hint and said "Well, invite me over then." She explained that she was really tired and sick and wants to see me when she's feeling better....


I left it at that. 4 days after that she texts me again. Here is our conversation:

Girl: Hey whats up?
Me: Nothing. Leaving the gym soon. you?
Girl: Not much. Wanna do something tonight?
Me: Yeah...I still owe you that back rub
Girl: Oh yess you do You're a big guy though - I don't know if you'd fit in my bed, but I like big guys
Me: Oh I'll fit. Be optimistic.
Girl: lol lets go get a drink for a bit.
Me: Okay. I'm gonna go home and shower. I'll call you when I'm out.
Girl: Sounds good
:40 minutes later:
Me: Just got out. I'll pick you up at 10.
Girl: 11pm.
Me: Okay, what is your address?
:30 minutes later:
Me: We're still going out tonight, right?

NO RESPONSE. It's been five days now and I have not gotten an apology or a single word from her. It's cool though. I'm not worried about it. I refuse to start any further conversations with her. There is a good chance that she'll text or call me in a few days, but how should I handle it? I'm thinking of saying something like "Soo how are you gonna make it up to me?" or I'm thinking of just completely blowing her off and not responding. I think if I did that, she would probably be hitting me up directly after that.....

Thoughts?????

You don't pick the girl up for the Day2. She doesn't know who you are or if you are a psycho stalker so giving the address is just not in the rule book. You shouldn't be so intent on picking her up. Just meet her there.

And by her I mean the next ten women. Stop focusing on one girl. Get many. Pick one of the many.

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This is somewhat similar to a number I got recently from a new girl at one of my job sites. She is 24. Before getting her number I talked with her for about 30 minutes (work related time, personal talk between work related things), during which she said she ended an engagement semi-recently because she "couldn't do the long distance thing". She threw up every IOI you can think of. Very flirty and in business related calls over the next few days were interesting as well.

For homework that first night after number closing I looked her up on Facebook, which contained very little info aside from "January 24, 2013 - is now in a relationship with _____ _______". Short engagement? New boyfriend? Hmmm..

Oh well, not to be deterred I sent her a text the next day so she would know my number. Her response took 12 hours. She started texting when she got to work. The weekend was upon us and she texted me on Friday (the next day) but I was busy with another HB so my responses were not prompt. Across the entire weekend we communicated via text about the equivilent of a 2 minute conversation in person. Very slow for her to respond. My thoughts shifted to boyfriend. Sure enough on Monday I had to go in her office, and there was a small picture on her desk of the same guy from FB in a frame that read something like "My Prince has arrived!".

The answer is not to worry about it. Like _Lothario_ said, let her be one of many and then it doesn't matter. When the timing is right you will get an opportunity to close her. Still, if you're like me and don't have the other ten women lined up it is not a fun place to be. Luckily I do have a couple of alternatives but it is difficult not to focus on the newest one!

*edit*

I'm by no means experienced in PUA but I will still share my response to this situation. Initially I got very angry and deleted her number and texts. Then after mentioning it on the forum and thinking it over, I realized it gives her control over me if I let it get to me. My plan moving forward is to be very friendly/flirty when I see her (already started this). Secondly there is another HB working there that I am on hugging terms with. I will try to get a DHV by doing that in front of her with the other HB. What I am struggling with is whether or not to initiate texts to her. I'm thinking I will just send her random texts, very infrequently, but I'm not sure whether this makes me look care-free or somewhat desperate.