Hey guys,

I have met this girl on a forum and turns out we have the same tastes and passions (ie: she loves japan, its culture, its food, etc. just like me). We don't really know each other but we said that we should meet for drinks since we live in the same city.

Now, even though sharing a hobby/passion with a girl is fun and cool, it is not sufficient to spark attraction.

As a noob AFC, this is still my weak point and somehow manage to screw up and bore the girl in the end. Loss of attraction = friendzone = end of game...
The point is that I have to act more flirty and play with her.

So, I am posting here hoping that you guys could help me a bit prepare this date. I know I should not overthink this but I still need to think about the things I am gonna talk about in order to avoid these dreaded silences.

Here are some topics I thought about:

*does she have a yukata (japanese traditional female dress)? I then tell her that I find women in yukata sexy...
*dating in japan and how men are not flirty enough. Then go on about how japanese women have a thing for westerners and that they are sexy in their own way...

These are just food for thought. Is there any way I can exploit these topics to escalate?

Amongst the material I have read, I saw that in order to escalate, you need to use sexual innuendo and also talk about sexual things (ie: what is your favourite position? is kissing cheating? etc.). However, I am not sure if this is appropriate for a first encounter such as this one. Moreover, i find these questions to be too direct to be used with a girl you have just met (and do not plan on a ONS)

I would be very grateful if you could give some tips and some concrete examples of how I can escalate things to keep the attraction going.

Thanks in advance, mates!
Cheers.

nothing you say matters.

its about the vibe you give out.

i mean sure you can talk about stuff that relates to you and her but just like you said its not enough.

but really dont stress and worry about what you have to say and dont call yourself an afc ur making it harder for yourself labeling yourself like that.

flirting and escelating could be as simple as just staring into her eyes in silence.
it could be also be holding hands.

my favorite is "show me your smile "

dont be dependent on words and topics, what matters is the vibe and yourself and the moment.

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Although it doesn't really matter too much what you talk about, I would avoid the examples you gave.

The first one you could show a funny side.. "Do you have a yukata? No, me neither, but I do have a dressing gown and that's pretty much the same" providing she finds racial stereotypes amusing.. You might want to test the waters with this one beforehand, perhaps something like, "I was going to ship my car over but the insurance would have gone through the roof".

The second one just makes you sound like you want to go to Japan and get laid. Fair enough if it's true, but it's not what she wants to hear.

Just remember the golden rule - you're hot and she's totally into you. That'll give you the confidence you need to relax a bit and keep a flirty vibe going.