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A brutally honest man once told me that I am an 8.5. But once I started talking I turned into a 10. I'm not trying to sound narcissistic, just believe me when I say it's true. I get hit on about 3 times every work shift. Someone will ask for my digits 1-2 times a week. And that's from work and groceries, I'm not talking about bars.
When I'm in a bar, I feel comfortable that someone will talk to me and I'll have a blast. But sometimes, I'll notice a set going on. So of course, I'm interested. I usually walk over and make eye contact, maybe smile. He'll do the rest. Other times, some guys just have a handful and they don't notice me.
So my question is, what do I have to do to get picked as a target? How do I increase my chances? I have the looks and the personality, I just need him to initiate. Ok, I WANT him to initiate.
I can approach myself, but where's the fun in that?

Also, I have some approach tactics:
1. I order a beer and ask the bartender NOT to open it. Then I walk over to a guy and ask for help
2. I sit next to a guy and say "Can I sit here? My heels are killing me

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3. Sometime's I just use cheesy pick up lines. Like, are you a cheese burger cause those are nice buns. Guys think it's HILARIOUS.
I really wanna be chased though. By the best guy in the room. How do I increase chances? And what do you think of my tactics for approach? Advise is greatly appreciated!
I would highly recommend not approaching guys. It's not classy and makes you look desperate. a guy worth having needs to have the courage to approach you. I'm 33 and I'd say since about age 25 I almost always blow off any woman who approaches me.
As a quick side note I hope that the guys reading this take notice; she's calling herself an 8.5 but gets asked for her number several times per week at grocery stores and work. So that's the kind of competition you are up against.
Anyway, keep in mind that some of the more quality guys in the bar/club aren't going to be interested in you even if he's single. It may be as simple as you don't morph in to a look he thinks is cute. you may be too tall, or too short. I'm 6'2 and rarely approach women under 5'5 unless there's nothing else I like but I'm always looking at 5'10ish first. Unless I am extremely bored, a girl could be a 10 in the face but if she doesn't have a slender figure I'm not generally interested in talking. I'd much rather be talking to a 10 body with a 7 face.
I don't like women in bars approaching me and I'm always one of the top players and usually the top in the bar. But I don't think there's anything wrong with women making eye contact or brushing up against me. If a woman sees me before I see her and she's interested, a lot of times they will come stand close or stand by or brush up against me as they walk by and make solid eye contact to make sure I see her. I don't have a problem with that. At that point I will decide if I want to speak or pass on it.