Hello PUA Members!

I'm having a bit of an issue but Im not exactly sure as I have never been in a situation like this. The girl has never been in a relationship and is absolutely terrified of being in one. We have been crazy for each other for quite a few months now and have got pretty intimate. Apparently Im one of the only guys shes ever trusted. Shes a bit of a loner and doesnt have many friends if that helps. Anyways let me give you a bit of a back story!

SO. I met a girl around 6 months ago, we hit it off really well etc. Around 2 months ago we started getting very intimate with each other. She would come over and we would watch movies while cuddling and fooling around. She would never K-close though. She did explain to me that she was scared and thats why she turned away the k-close. She wouldnt mind me kissing her anywhere else though. Odd really. We talk constantly and she's massively into me and has told me this many times.

flash back to last week. I was driving her home when she grabbed my hand. She started talking about how she's completely head over for me but doesnt want a relationship. Shes not ready due to personal problems which she wont tell me. Since Ive stupidly been pursuing this girl for 4 months Ive been getting a little frustrated with the situation. So I asked her what the deal was, if she was only saying she wasn't ready to keep me around because she's to scared a no will drive me away. One of her fears is that everyone shes ever got comfortable with has left her. Needless to say she started crying and told me she needed the weekend to get over being upset and we could talk then. It almost sounds like she wants me to convince her that its a good idea to date. At least thats what I gather. She told me she had things she wanted to tell me but wasn't ready due to being upset and that she knows we need to talk about the future of us. She explained that some of them are good things and some are bad. This girl and I have been pretty crazy about each other for 4 months so I believe she thinks its time we decide.

She was so upset with me that she could barely look at me during the rest of the week before the weekend. We share all the same classes so its a little hard to keep distance from her. Then over the weekend she messaged me saying she just wanted to say hi and has been talking to me all weekend via text. Stress has been really getting to her so she just needed someone to cheer her up maybe? Se also said that she knows she said she needed a break for the weekend but she missed me. However this conversation about us is still looming for our first day back at classes. She hasn't mentioned it but she's been pretty resistant to any flirting over the whole weekend.

A bit about her:

She's inexperienced as Ive said already. She has no idea about standard dating procedures at all. She also runs hot cold. Some weeks shes all over the idea others she's absolutely against it. She has little to no social life and I believe shes very unhappy about that but doesn't feel she can change it. Shes gotten very comfortable being alone.

So, Im not sure what to do here. Do I move on or give her a shot at getting ready? and if I give her a shot how do I help her overcome her fears if she wont tell me what they are. Its a bit hard of a situation seeing as I have to see this girl every day for another 2 years. She really means alot to me so I'd love to somehow make it work. I knew it would be a slpw game but 6 months is ridiculous.

Thanks for reading my essay and Thank you for any advice!

If you legit see it as the girl you want a relationship with then go for it. But from an outsider's perspective she seems like nothing but drama and instability.

Try seeing other girls and developing some abundance, if you still see her as the one for you, after seeing what else is out there, then go for it.

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