you dont have to be a nice guy to make a girl feel speical man. obviously you dont over do it with validation on the first date. make her win you over have her break down your shields. validate her when she deserves it. but dont lose your dominate frame. keep it with your tone and body language. and give her some good old negative validation too(push pull.) make a connection and build up her self esteem very very slowly. by having a bit more positive validation then negative.
thats just my style man. i like to bring low self esteem girls up. i like the "leave them better then you found them"
girls only like assholes because they (well most of them not all) act dominate, not needy and dont take shit from people. girls see that as strength (even though i think most assholes are just covering up their truely weak innerself)
what i take from this is to have strength but vulnerability as well.
which makes you seem stronger because you must have a great level of strength to be vulnerable but yet still strong.
of course every womans veiw of strength is different. more manipulative women will try to flip the vulnerablity into control but if your strong you should spot it. personally if i feel a women is manipulative i kick her to the curb.
strength= attraction
vulnerability= connection
read "models" by mark manson its an amazing book man.
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If you don't want to be an asshole, be hyper sexual with her instead, like you can't control yourself when she's around. Escalate.
some great advice!!!
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