Hey, first of all some context I guess, I'm 18 and it's my first year at uni, she's in the same boat and she's living at a hall with one of my friends from high school.

Okay, so I've met her three times in total over the course of about a month, the first time we met my friend was introducing me to everyone at his hall and we got along really well, it was really natural and easy and throughout this first meeting I teased her a little which she took really well. We basically just spent a few hours with a few people just talking and it was pretty sweet.

Second time, one week later, nothing really happened, no real conversation or progression between us because I wasn't there too long and I was mostly playing pool and bball with some guys.

Okay, so a couple weeks later I come over and visit my friend again, we spend the first few hours just messing around getting drinks for the night (it was a saturday) and I got a pretty flirtatious feeling from her, like I'd teaser her and she'd laugh and smile and took it really well and she'd often come and talk to me and tell me I should come over more often and how she liked how I made fun of her even though we didn't know each other for that long. Anyway, we kept talking and she was joking about how she could be pretty intimidating and I kind of laughed and said "you're far too adorable to be intimidating" and she said something along the lines of "woah, I like it better when you're mean to me" so I kind of covered by saying "yeah, well you're like a 10 year old, they told me you cried when you lost a debating match when you were in high school" and things seemed fine after that, but when she said I should come over more often again I replied with "I would but you're awful company".

Anyway, that night we went to a flat party with all the people from their hall and on the way we passed a far larger one which a few of my other friends were at. So I spent a few hours with her and the people from her hall but truthfully I felt a little "left out" since they all knew each other so well so I decided I'd head out and see what my other friends were up to and basically ended up spending the entire night with the boys ( who she doesn't know) and I didn't really see her at the party other than a brief meeting when she went up to me and showed me what a hand hug was, lol. Which, is adorable, ha.

So, I sent her a message a few days later on facebook because I figured I'd probably kept too much distance (I figured last girl I didn't keep enough) and it was awful, the conversation went something like this.

Me: "Hey, (her name) what's Rob's last name?
Her: (last name)
Me: Okay sweet, what're you up to these holidays?
Her: Going to (city) then (home city)

So, did I just distance myself too much? Cause that was just cold, ha. I'm pretty certain we had a nice flirtatious relationship up to that point too, after the first meeting another friend I had at the hall warned me about her being a Christian telling me she probably wouldn't have sex before marriage, in reference to how well we got along the first time around.

Any help/criticism would be welcome, thanks. And sorry for the disgusting amount of text, I'm a noob I know.

You did the teasing thing well, but you failed to escalate physically. Touch quickly, eye contact etc.

You talk the talk of a badass but you can't back it up with the physical touch of a badass.

That's a good point, I'm still a noob at heart so it'll require some working on I guess, so should I give it another shot and try to escalate physically? Or is she already lost?

Edit: Actually, should I keep at the teasing thing for her/other people? I figure I look like a nice guy so it kind of compliments me in that regard but I don't feel as if I "enjoy it" that much. Being described as a badass kind of made me

Nice guys don't get laid. You don't have to accept the label of badass, but you need to start acting like one. This girl was begging for you to escalate physically by touching her.

Okay, another question regarding the whole situation.
Where to now? I figure I'll meet her again in a week or so and likely go to a party together. My current plan at the moment is just go for it with a whatever happens, happens attitude. I'm thinking, I'll get her alone, look her in the eye, cup her cheek and say "(name), what happened" and see what happens from there. Jokingly mind you, so it's not really an accusation.
Any problems with that? How far do I progress physically from there assuming it works? Should I do it before the party, during, as soon as I meet her? (She doesn't really drink that much and I assume doing it drunk would probably just nail the coffin more than anything)

If you ever get to that stage, be sure to insist you're fine with that, and that you don't care about sex. But keep escalating. She might object to intercourse. But what about a lil titty licking? Rubbing your knee on her crotch? Mmm, she likes that. Keep going and she won't be able to resist. And hopefully you'll have your D in her V. Destroy those fucking abstinent bitches.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

Truthfully I'm not too worried about the sex, really it's cool either way.

Anyway, bump.

Always touch when you first see a girl, as much as possible. If you don't, it will be creepy when your touching becomes more sexual later.