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Male dominance battles can get pretty challenging. Usually guys with low self esteems aren't going to be easily dissuaded. I see a couple different options. Either direct physical threat, this works if you are clearly bigger than he is. Do not do this when anyone else is around.
You can also subtly turn everyone in your social circle against him. You have to carefully change everyone's impression of him. See what things they dislike about him and exaggerate it. When people confide his faults then get him to do those behaviors when everyone is around and then call him out on it.
Probably the best approach is to befriend the guy. Just being charming and interested in him shows you are dominant. Make him feel welcome and praise him in front of everyone else. Pick him up and help him feel better about himself and make sure others see you doing it.
I'm just throwing this out there, but your post is very beta. Being a strong man means wanting to help other men become strong. See him for what he is (and probably a bit what you are) insecure. Nothing wrong with that.
That's good advice smushed. My advice would be that he is down the social ladder trying to get up, unconsciously or consciously, so I would just ignore him and if he does it infront of people I would ignore him and start a different thread with someone else (preferably a girl) or look at her or him and smile as if sharing a joke.
I have had similar problems with one or two guys in work. They try bringing you down infront of other people especially the ladies. The work place is and can be a nasty battle ground. I've found that not reacting to it (although hard to do as you just wanna knock them out) usually work or agreeing with them and turning it in to a joke and building them up. They usually crumble. Sometimes they can get really physical. ie they are always touching and sometimes slap you on the back of the head or the face infront of girls which is very frustrating. Or push and grab you in a jokey way but there is undertones of aggression and insecurity.
My question would be how would handle that type of behaviour? I go red...not from embarrassment..but from anger or fear that I'll lose control and smash them as I can handle myself well. I'm not the type to beat my chest like the typical amog but when I need to protect myself I can. These guys are tall. It's ever since I have risen up in the social hierarchy of the work group. I organise drinks out and have my own thing going on outside the group and they can see that I go out with other beautiful ladies.
I'm more popular but I'm certainly not the alpha male of the group. The guy who is the amog uses his physical presence and he is also intelligent. I have befriended him but I can tell he is insecure about me as he attacks. So there are some positives to take from it I suppose when the alpha males attack (Physically or verbally) they are seeing you as a threat so you must be doing something right. Maybe. I think the higher you move up the social ladder the more underhanded put downs are. However I'm still learning with this social group but it is so fascinating to see how things work in the social matrix
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