Hello everyone!
This will be the place where I'll share my experiences and evolution on this important part of my life.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I will.

About me: "I'm from Portugal in Europe, and I'm in my early 20s." (hello-vt158669.html)

Background:

I consider myself to be a cool guy, outgoing and can make anyone laugh. I'm use to have the same group of friends since 10 years old and I think that is one of the reasons I'm a shy person (with women), and normally don't initiate conversations with others, although I'm already trying to change that.

With guys it's a lot different, I can talk to anyone and when in a group I tend to be the alpha guy taking all the decisions and leading the group, mainly because I play soccer from an early age.

I only slept with a girl, which was my girlfriend for about 1 year, but we broke 3 years ago. (more on that to come, since we still talk and socialize from times to times.

I consider myself a little bit above average in looks and everyday I try to look improve myself.
My body, due to playing soccer is in good shape, but I'm in a gym now working out, trying to get a fitness model body type.
I recently had braces on the lower teeth and next week will be the upper teeth, and this will surely be something I'll have to work with, to don't interfere with my confidence.

I've been recently inspired by reading some journals on the internet, and that's given me the motivation to start posting here.

From the many books I read, I'll be guided mostly by Adam Lyon's formula:
(Comfort - Rapport) + Qualification + Sexual Escalation = Attraction

Therefore I will work progressively until I'm pretty good at every stages of the formula.

Summary:

The good:

I am a fairly good looking man that works out and is in good shape. I have a great sense of humor and general culture which allows me to talk about any subject.

The bad:

I have really bad approach anxiety and get a little nervous around girls. (One on one is a different story where I can be very cool with myself, relaxed, make them laugh, etc.)
Next will I'll get braces which will be something I'll have to overcome and I still live with my parents and share the room with a younger brother, but I already have my own car.

Things to work on:
- Small talk with everyone
- First minutes of a conversation (after being introduced to a girl)

Practice plan:
- I'll try to go out (coffee, bar, disco) at least two times a week, one with the guys and the other with a woman.
- Arrange some kind of activity like dinner party, paintball game, karting, etc.


Recent 'gaming'

I was recently introduce to a younger girl throw a mutual couple, she was yesterday watching a soccer game of my friend and I with my friend GF. At night my friend GF texted her my number and the girl texted me back.
HER: Name.
ME: Hello Name how are you doing? I'm borntonag xd
HER: Hello I'm fine how about you? I know xd
ME: Me too so do you enjoyed watching the soccer game?
HER: Yes I do, although you not won the game...
ME: Yep that was not cool, but you know we went out last night* so we were not in the best shape to play xd sorry to ask you out of the blue, but are you from nearby?

She didn't texted back yet.

*when we where introduced to each other

The texts are translated so they not have the correct word by word conversation.

I have some girls I talk to, but I'll get to them in later posts.

First questions:
what do you thing of my practice plan? Things I have to work on?
Should I have done something different in the texts above?

Cheers

I think you're well on your way. Three pointers:
1. Often, the most poorly executed part of the conversation is active listening.
2. Conversation subjects that involve questions like 'how are you', 'where are you from', 'what do your parents do for a living', etc. are not interesting. In text, such questions are easily, and generally, ignored. Text funny, playful things, preferably inside jokes or running gags.
3. Don't apologize when you're not doing anything wrong. Asking a question, out of the blue or not, is not wrong, so no apology is necessary.

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One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.

Thank you for the pointers
Three days passed and I didn't talked to that girl (I will call it DDancer, because she is a dancer and has double D boobs ), so I'm thinking to send her a text, just to have a little chat and to get to know each other since the first time you barely text to each other.

Any good ideas of next message and topics?
I'm thinking of asking something about the dancing team she's on or something related to TV series, what do you think about that?

Note: Where I'm from, texting is one of the most used form of communication/conversation/seduction/whatever between people, that's why I'm referring to it so much.

Texting is the worst thing you can do. Don't fall for "Everybody is doing..." - you wanna be outstanding for a girl - so don't do it!

Send a text: I will call you "in 30 minutes" or "I will call you around 15:00" - so she can prepare herself.

Talking is the magic with girls.

PS: Dont get her number from friends. That is lame. Girls wanna be "taken" - I did this mistake several times, don't do that. Ask her or leave her.

Edit: Texting to set up a date is fine. Texting with the goal to create attraction or comfort is a bad idea. In most cases it will work against you.

These subjects are depending on the situation calibration. They are fine if you are an interesting man. If George Clooney says "How are you? Where are you from?" any girl will be sensational excited about that!

If you are a man with self confidence this is fine.

On the other hand being "funny" sets often a trap of becoming an "attraction monkey" or the "funny guy" instead of an confident guy with the "danger" of depth and passion. Be careful with that.

I got one question for you guys.

Do you consider a girl is interested in you just my responding to you or only if she asks questions back to you?