So I went out for lunch with this girl and we talked and everything went well. She said "Oz is playing at the theater for only 5 bucks i really want to see it but....." Me- "but what?" her - "O idk" Anyway I took the hint and asked her to see it right after lunch and we agreed to meet up an hour later. Normally I stay away from movie dates because you can't talk but hey she asked. Anyway fast forward to halfway through the movie and I get the feeling she wanted the old arm around her shoulder routine. Long Story short i tottally AFC'ed out and didn't, we chatted throughout the movie here and there and I'm pretty sure we had a good a time, I mean I did. So afterwards we smoked on the way back and honestly the carride back had too many silences but we could have just both been out of it from the smoke sesh. When I dropped her off at her house, i'm pretty sure she wanted a kclose too but again i AFC'ed out and said we would talk later. When she left I said "sweet dreams" and drove away. Right away I hated myself for not escalating more so when I got home I txted her "Just so you know, I don't kiss on the first date I'm a classy girl" a couple min later I also txted her "lol munchies I'm about to eat blah blah and I just had like 10 strawberrys." I figured it would lighten the mood.

Anyway she didn't text me back right away but instead 10 min I got a text "straight to stoplol" which she then said 2 min later was not for me. The point is she got my text about the kiss and decided not to comment on it.

My questions are:

Do I have date 2 in the bag or did I AFC myself out the door?

How long should I wait to text her again I don't want to wait too long and have her think I didn't have a good time and I don't want to text her right away and seem needy.

I went out with her wenesday and want to go ice skating with her friday night. (They only have public skating friday night.)
I know if I can get her to come with me there is alot of kino involved with skating(holding hands ect..) and I will to kclose her as soon as we get out on the ice

Problem is I def got oneitis, I think this girl is amazing and it is really throwing off my game. I don't want to go fuck 10 other girls unless date 2 goes bad. I need some help getting there though.

If it helps with context she is 18 and I am 22.
I appreciate any help.

Thanks, things make a little more sense now. I'll call her friday and tell her to come out with me when she is off of work and I'll make my intentions clear. The feeling of when you know you should have made the move and didn't is a shitty one, I never want to feel like this again.

Called her tonight (Thursday) at about 9. I figured the first date was not actually as bad as I had thought and she was probably just waiting for me to call her. She answered pretty quickly and after saying hi,
me-"what up
her-blah blah blah what she did today, how bout you"
me-I'm gonna go to bed in a little bit, gotta get up early. If you don't have work too late , I want you to go out with me friday night.
her- er well let me see, i work till 9?
me-can you leave right from work or do you need to go home first.
her-i would like to change.
me-how bout saturday.
her- 8
me-perfect. I'll call you tomorrow ok.
her. ok, gnight
me-night

I didn't tell her what we were doing(iceskating) so i txted her 15 min later "i hope you have good balence..." and im going play it from there being cocky/funny.

I'm not sure why I said I would call her tomorrow since we are not going out till Saturday but I'm sure I'll think of a reason

Sounds like u sorted it out for date 2 mate, as above dont AFC again or sounds like u will be wasting a nice girl....

ice skating defo a good choice...small note for any future mistakes as such, if u dont K close on a first date, i like the text saying im to classy thats good...BUT next time say "i dont kiss till date three im too classy" this way when u OBVIOUSLY kiss on date too, if she brings up the txt u can put a playful spin on it while still in the kissing mood, and make her laugh while kissing these are the best kisses in a girls eyes, deep passion or laughing playful kisses.. its just something i sometimes use

but good luck tonight i guess! make sure she has gloves or she wont be thanking you if she bails lol

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so things went into a tailspin last night might still be recoverable but who knows, I mean we are still on for date 2 but yeh just read on and you'll see what I mean.

I didn't talk to her all Friday as I had planned to call her a little later. She initiated with a text around 3:00 in the afternoon

her-Heya
Me- o hai
her-sup
me- just got done playing ball with my friends
me-how are you
her- Nice. I'm well. thank you. so you wanted to hang tomorrow night? I have to wake up Sunday morn for church early so I can't hangout too late.
me- Define too late.
her-Since I'm waking at 8 am. 11, 1130 the latest. But tonight if we chilled after I get out at 9, it could be as long as I want.
me about a half hour later- Call me when you get out of work, I still want to chill tomorrow though, I'll have you home to get your beauty sleep.


So far so good right? the last one kinda seemed like she wanted to hang out last night. I asked her how work was going later and after she responded I decided to wait for her to call me when she got out. Here is where things start to go bad. I end up being honest and telling her how i feel again thinking i was being romantic and i guess i came on way too strong

(I feel it might be important to mention I had the following conversation with her via text last tuesday as it is sort of relevant. We were texting for a while asking stuff about each other , favorite colors ect.. the conversation turned into this and while i ran into the store my friend who is a hardcore player decided to grab my phone and txt her the following line.

her-I'm so confused boy!(in reference to something else)
me(actually my friend) - I just really like you that's all
/at this point i return i couldn't get mad at my friend he was just trying to help a brotha out. i take over though
her- whys that? you only talk to me in work sometimes:P u dont really kno much about me
me- well I think your beautiful and I like everything about you so far, so so far so good.
her-haha well thank you I'm not sure I could do a work relationship though cause been there done that....and is not fun. But we should def still hangout.
her- I still want to get to know you too.
me- I didn't say I wanted a relationship, I just want to get to know you better to see if one is actually a possibility.
her-Okay. lol. sorry I misunderstood. How old are you?

we continue finding stuff out about each other till bedtime, and go on to have a pretty good date at franks the next day)

Ok so fasttrack to Friday night.I figure she might wait till she gets home from getting off of worka at 9 to call me so I wait till a little past 9:30 for her call and get none( she lives 3 min away from where we work. this kindove annoys me because I was hoping she would call if she was interested I was also really tired and acting a little grumpy but it does not show till later. I decide to give her a call:

me- hey
her-hey
me- how was work tonight, it wasn't too busy?
we proceed to talk about work for a couple min, we work at the same place and they were having a meet the manager night so it was not just an average day at work.
me- so do you have plans for tonight.
her- I was gonna go over to my friends house for a bit. how about you.
me- My friends are going to a party tonight but I don't really want to go, I'm not a fan of everyone who is going. I actually wanted to go out with you tonight but I guess if your going to your friends house I'll see you tomorrow night.
her- well I'm leaving in a bit but if you want to come over and hang out with my friends I'll call you when I get there.
me- who are your friends
her- just 2 of my girlfriends.
me- um not sure, maybe. gimme a call when you get there.
her- ok talk to you in a bit peace
me- ok later.

at first i was not gonna go but then decided I would just go and be my happygolucky self and make a good impression
So about 30 min later she texts me. Warning: the following is pretty cringe worthy. I was tired and a little annoyed she didn't ditch her friends to hang with me.

her - sup
me- the ceiling
her-Lol laying down?
me- yeh thinking
her- Watcha thinking about
I really tried to think of something witty but after 10 min I had to be completely honest with myself and her and I felt like if i said anything else i would be telling a huge lie and i was just like fuck it.
me- You.
her-What about me
me- I can't figure you out.
her- Lol funny
me- i guess
her- whats not to knoe
me- I want to know if you feel the same way about me as I feel about you. I really like you.
her- I don't really know you though lol
me- True
me- But how do you feel about me so far.
The next text i sent immediately afterwards was fucking stupid.
me-ffs throw me a bone please lol
her-Bone? Lol huh. You're really cool. I mean we could always be friends
me- Ouch, I guess i deserved that for being too forward.
her- No you don't deserve anything bad. I just dont know you enough to say I like you more than a friend. I look at what's inside.
me-I was up at 5 this morning working out before work and i'm really tired and not thinking straight. I did not mean to put you on the spot it was rude of me. Ima go to bed and get a good sleep in. If we are still on for tommorow night I'll call you before u have work to discuss sat evening. gnight
her- sounds good, and you're not being rude. I think you are a nice guy

So where the fuck does that leave me? Is she freindzoning me really hard or am I just being way too forward

We are still on for tonight but I feel like it's going to be weird. my plan is as follows.
Go into work when she is working tonight and make sure things aren't too awkward. I have to get my schedule for Sunday and next week anyway so i'm not just going to see her. When we meet up tonight I was going to get flowers of her favorite color and give her a couple to put in her hair while we skated. I was gonna save the rest of the flowers for when I dropped her off if everything went well. Not sure if i should still do the flowers in her hair thing though after the friendzoning she gave me.

Anyway not sure what to expect tonight. I'm really considering going and finding another girl and forgetting about this one but iv'e never felt this way before about a girl, the type that you would bring home to your parents if you know what i mean. I'm doing it first thing sunday if tonight does not go well.

Also TK i realize now that texting is bad.

Yeh so i ended up going to the movies with her again last saturday. the iceskating rink in town is closed for good so that was not an option. Anyway we had a really good time i thought excepting in the parking lot I told her I was scared to cross the parking lot and she should hold my hard. I got a No, but it didn't make anything too awkward. We saw the magican movie which turned out to suck balls. We had a good time together playing the arcade afterwards though, she is actually pretty competitive. Anyway I brought her home no kclose, I'm not trying to force anything at this point. We had work together for an hour the next day and I talked to her before i left. I didn't have time to do anything that night so I told her i would ttyl.

I was making fun of her airhocky skills from the movies and she texted me "hahaha" "Fu " "pun intended". This was pretty weird statement because it has been the first of its kind from her. I was not sure exactly what she meant because it was so unexpected. I texted her back, "did you mean no pun intended? I'm not that easy lol"
her- i'm sorry, i was joking though so i hope you didnt take it seriously.
i didn't respond right away cause i was working and she txted me again 10 min later
her-whats up.
me-i was'nt sure thats why i asked. I'm working till 4:30 how boutchu
her-Nice. I'm just hanging around. I have off.
me-I'm gonna work out then grab a bite to eat care to join me
her. Lol join you doing what.
me- dinner lol. I don't think you want to run in this weather and i know you couldn't keep up with me.
her-haha i don't run period xD I'm not feeling going out to eat...... Nothing grabs at me latley lol
me-k well after i'm done eating want to hangout?
her- What time around?
me- round 8
her-Idk if tonights good. My moms being all batshit crazy trying to give me a curfew...
me- she mad i brought you home past midnight on sat?
her- she just unhappy lately. Nothing i did. Well maybe. She seems depressed I'm really worried.
me- U should stay home and be with her then. its snowing hard and i dont have the truck right now anyway.
her- Yeah. Safer that way.
So later that night around 10 I txted her
me- Er, everything ok with your mom?
her- yeah
me- K just checking u seemed worried.

So last i talked to her was last night. I honestly have no idea where i stand with this girl, it seemed like she wanted to hangout but i'm not sure. I have not textd her today and its almost 6pm. I don't want to come off as needy anymore than i have,