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Ok, so there is a lot spoken about how having female friends in your life and how its good for you. i've heard a talk from adam lyons about it and is seems like a nice idea, so im working on it. making female friends is really easy i guess for a lot of us, this is why a lot of us are on this forum, cuz we make every girl our friend.
that said, there are girls that i know its better if we are just friends. for example, i wanna make friends with the target's friends. but fuck its hard.
so when i was a real chump, in like 9th grade, i had a lot of female friends, no girlfriend, so one day i was like fuck this i dont need female friends i want a girl to have sex with. so i fucking ended up blowing up all my female friendships almost, cuz if i wasnt hitting on them i wasnt paying them any attention. a real fucking asshole, yes, but i didnt know better at the time.
so for years, every time i talked to a girl i was trying to make something happen with her, flirting was too usual for me. to the extent that probably all the girls i hit on knew i had hitted on that other girl in school and it never went anywere, so yes girls from my highschool, 0 attention. outside of school i was getting girls but they needed to be outside the school circle almost, for it to happen. (this is something i realice now but didnt know back then of course)
so my point is, all this years, the only way that i can relate to women is by flirting and stuff, and when it comes to female friends i'm always stopping myself from flirting with them, and sometimes (not often) is makes me come off as a little awkward. its like i have to rewire my brain to fit both female friendship and flirting and i cant seem to do that.
this week i had a pre party with a few female friends of mine and their friends, and i could not just get in a flirtatious mood with the other girls, my brain was like in friend mode. im afraid this is gonna get me friendzoned.
anyone has some similar experiences? if you do how the fuck do you do handle this? can YOU friendzone a girl and then unfriendzone her? i mean does it really work? you being all friendly wont just make her friendzone you as well??
any experience at this? thanks!!! i'll be sure to help you back if i can
Owen
You SHOULD be flirty with her friends. Flirt with everyone. I flirty with the 56 year old barista at Barnes and Noble cause its practice. If you become a naturally flirty person... girls will pick up on that and accept you for that. You seem awkward when you are not flirty because that is not who you are. Don't be apologetic about who you are or the way you act. Fucking do it. And if people don't like it they can go fuck themselves.
That's the mindset you want!
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