So I just got my first ever 'lets just be friends'. Saw it coming a mile off.. like I had an idea it was going this way for around a week or two and then yesterday she said 'let's get ice cream and chat' so I knew.... So we got Ice cream then went back to her's and sat around the living room for around an hour with her friends talking crap. It was like being on death row... you know it's coming. So as I left we went into her room and made small talk before I eventually just came out with;

Me: "So what do you want to talk to me about?"
Her: "Nothing...(blushes)
Me: "I know you want to talk to me about something so what is it..?"
Her: "Nothing.. Well Okay things are just weird now" (I've moved into my friends house which they are good friends with so come around often)
Me: "How?"
Her: "I'm confused right now and don't want to mix things up".
Me: "I'm not looking for a relationship..."
Her: (Head goes down) "I know I know... but it's just odd now and I don't want to do the same mistakes as before" (She slept with a house mate and it had been going on for a year and a half, I suspect she still likes him)
Me: "How are things going to change now I've moved in..?"
Her: "I dunno..it just does"
Me: "I think you have totally over thought this"
Her: "I don't think I have...I'm not sure what I want right now"
Me: "Okay I'm cool with it"
Her: "That's not what your face says"
Me: "It's fine.. whatever"

I then said I had to leave which I did, we made small talk again as I was putting my shoes on. I begin to leave and she hugs me tightly, I reciprocate but half assed with my face turned away. She says "You can be my new best bud". Me: "Haha... Yeaa..... (Sarcastically) Bye.

I knew the whole thing was going to be awful, I did research on how to act during but it didn't go as planned, I was aiming to be not bothered and have her feel I was the prize. But I felt sadness when she said "I'm not sure what I want right now.." Girl 101 excuses, had it before from two ex's. I even tried to use logic to reason with her...My game with this girl was off from the start, it went on for over a month and we fucked twice (great sex, amazing tits - which is what I'm disappointed about the most haha) but I was doing Cocky funny but possibly lacking congruence and I valued her more than she valued me and possibly came across easy.

I dunno feel really down right now but how do you guys think I should play it from here? Become friends? Be distant? Make her jealous? Move on? Move on but become friends but not close?

Advice is welcome. Thank you.

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Game other chicks. If this girl isn't into you 100% now, she will be when she finds out your idea of fun is having sex with beautiful women and not getting ice cream and talking about platonic things with "friends".

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

She get's very jealous from what I have seen, definitely the way to play her. I'm gonna bring girls back to mine and let the social group do the rest, she will eventually get the gossip. I feel she's attracted to me but I slipped up a few times on this girl... but I would love to fuck her again

Really don't like this whole LJBF's thing, it's so fake.

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Seems like she legitimately might be confused, but she's not attracted enough to you. Hit on other girls, don't be needy. Flirt with her, but not in a pushy "YOU'RE THE ONLY GIRL I CAN GET" way.

Bring over hotter girls.

a lot of girls dont wanna sleep with guys in their social circle. she may be into you (well, obv she is), but it just isnt worth it for her because she doesnt wanna fuck everything up. now that you moved in with her friends and all of you are hanging out together a bunch, it could end up being a huge disaster if you guys had some nasty breakup or drama or whatever. also, she doesnt wanna look like a gigantic sloot in front of all her friends. i mean, they probably already know she slept with your roommate.

you need to show her that youre cool and that you can keep your mouth shut. so, like others have said, bring good looking girls around. continue to flirt with all the girls, especially her. dont act all butthurt towards her. understand why shes not sleeping with you right now. be her friend that she can fuck when she wants because she knows shell get good sex and youll keep it a secret. she will most likely come back around after a while.

Two years ago I was crushing (CRUSHING!) this 19yo redhead. It was a 1 month fling and was absolutely the best sex of my life, the most fun month of my life, with one of the most incredible people I've ever met. She knew I wanted more than just hookups; I was looking for a committed relationship, and she was looking to just have fun (hey, she was 19, I was 28). What ever. Toward the end of that month, I show up at her house to go out to the local bars, and she tells me we can't fuck around anymore because she met someone. Fine; this will be the last time we run around (I didn't tell her that, but she had to know it, right?). What ever. In the car, on the way to the bar, she tells me her boyfriend is going to meet us there. Is she out of her fucking mind? Doesn't she realize how uncomfortable that will be for me? So we get there, nice enough guy, I come up with an awesome excuse ("I just had eye surgery and need to take some prescription eyedrops"), go back to my car, and leave her there. I was going to drive both of them. At least that was her plan.

Leaving her stranded was one of the worst mistakes I had ever made! "But Jowee, you weren't getting it any more, there was no chance for what you wanted, you had been bumped down, friend zoned, and you must be terrible in bed." All true. BUT! This chick was able to introduce me into a part of town, groups of people, and various subcultures that I would have otherwise been unexposed to. She was the life of the party wherever she went. You know how often times you have to build up nerve to approach groups of strangers and talk to them? Not her. Ever wish you had an innate ability to lead a conversation in the direction you wanted? Well, she can do it better than any PUA out there. Had I stayed in her social circle, I would have had access to dozens of people that I would have never even crossed paths with. Also, she really was a super rad chick. Actually funny, and smart. A total hippie and somewhat of a pot head.

It's only now, two years later, that I'm reconnecting with Scooter Girl (so named because she recklessly drives a Vespa-style scooter). She's seeing some other jackass (seriously, dudes a moron), but of course her social circle has only increased. The moral here is that if there is nothing in it for you, why be friends with them? Are you just seen as a machine by her (SPAM machine, forklift for moving heavy stuff, moving truck, taxi cab), or is your friendship really valued? Is her friendship truly valued by you, or are you just trying to get in her pants? Look at a male friend. There is something in it for you; companionship, shared interests, activity partner, etc. Women should meet these same criteria for friendship.

So guys bit of an update, I haven't contacted her in 3 days and I had no plan too as I deleted her phone number and messages. Anyway this morning I received a text off her, it was a picture of a famous local cheese I had mentioned to her and a message saying 'found it! x'. The night before she liked my facebook status which was just a funny clip from Family guy, relevance? She had never liked any of my statuses before...

I'm thinking she's trying to do one or maybe multible things here...

A) Keep me stringed along
B) She is genuinely confused and has had second thoughts
C) She's trying to find out I'm Ok
D) Other?

So guys what actions should I take? Don't bother messaging her? Message her in a few days? Message her but seem disinterested? I'm no longer willing to put in effort to chase her like I did before, She can come after me.

Thanks guys

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"Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about Creating yourself." So what are you waiting for?

I've had a very similar situation to this - you are in a good position right now. Don't take the "don't bother contacting her" thing too far though, that's what I did.. And eventually she lost interest because I showed such little back. It's quite funny because when I first stopped putting effort in with the girl I liked she done the exact same thing - she started liking things on Facebook (which she NEVER does), pictures with us both in, one of my photo albums, "poking" me. All that - the funny thing is she'd sent me a text beforehand, and she KNOWS that I get Facebook notifications through my phone.. so I guess that was pretty obvious. I never contacted her though, I held off and tried to make her think I was off busy doing other things and NOT thinking about her. This was where I went wrong, she text me about 4 times over a week and I never replied, or if I did reply it'd be very small (almost) one word answers, which was stupid. My advice to you is to obviously reply to her when she tries to contact you, don't be too blunt - but don't be overly keen, don't reply straight back every time, give it a wait now and then.

Now from what you've said:
Option A is likely - depending on the type of girl she is, only you'll be able to tell this one.
Option B is slightly less likely.. the confused bit might be there, but I doubt she'll have had 2nd thoughts already.
Option C another possibility, but again.. depends on the girl. The girl I was involved with was quite self-centered so I ruled this one out.

Playing the "hard to get" game is a tricky one if you don't know the girl is genuinely interested in you. Like the guys said above, you almost have to talk to others girls/bring over other girls and SEE how she reacts to get an idea.