I've noticed that a girl asking if you're gay or saying she thinks you're gay, has a fair probability of meaning she's not interested in you. This is probably more often true in text than irl conversations. 1) Does anyone else agree?

2) Is there any good come-back to this question/comment that can save you, or are you mostly doomed?

3) Also, what's the psychology behind a girl asking/saying this? It seems more rare for a male to ask if a female is lesbo.

"Are you gay?" translated into it's real meaning is "why are you not trying to fuck me?". Basically she either likes you and is wondering why you're not making a move on her or otherwise is wondering what you're doing. It's her way of challenging you to grow some balls.

If you like her you now need to become a sexual man and make some sort of move or at least show interest. If you just want to be friends then just continue and be the "gay best friend" and when you go out at night she'll help you pick up women.

Your comments don't add up to my experiences. I'll post my IRL experiences and my IN TEXT experiences.

IRL: This often occurs to me after I've ALREADY BEEN GRINDING WITH A GIRL AND HAVE A BONER! My reaction to her gay comment is usually either 1) Why would I have a boner for you if I'm gay, or 2) Well then, I'll have to prove how straight I am to you tonight.

Like I said, IRL it's less likely to mean disinterest, perhaps the 2nd comment is what they're sometimes hoping for, as it's lead to hooking up once. But I think it must mean disinterest sometimes since I've been turned down on using 2 before.

IN TEXT: Seems more likely to mean disinterest. I'll post a conversations I had recently.

(This was on Blendr, the girl's pic only showed her body in a hand stand, but no face. Her body was HB9.)

(My profile pic shows face and body. I'm somewhere between an HB9 and HB10. I'm a semi-celebrity model, fyi.)

ME: You're cute! We should do hand stands together!

HER: Lol thank you!

ME: U do gymnastics???

HER: Growing up

ME: Woot! Gymnast girls are the hottest!

I train it everyday!

HER: Nice

I just did it as a hobby

May I see a pic

ME: But if I send, u gotta too!

(I already had a profile pic, but sent her another.)

ME: There! Youre turn.

HER: R u gay

ME: Hey, no avoiding the subject. U owe me a pic, fair's fair!

Her: I don't think ur straight

Bye

ME: Hmmm, y would i chat with u and ask for a pic if i was gay?

Oh i get it, youre lesbian and just masking the problem on me. Jerk.




SIMILAR CONVOS HAVE HAPPENED BEFORE, THAT WAS THE MOST BRUTAL THOUGH. Could it be some girls think I'm too good looking for them (this girl might have had an ugly face), or could it be I might really look faggotish lol and some girls don't like that (I'm actually very masculine and straight looking, but have feminine mannerisms, for example, I had a lollipop in my mouth in the pic I sent her haha).

In this situation should have just said "Would a gay guy do this?" then kiss her.

To be honest she probably just wasn't interested, it happens, and you qualified yourself to her loads at first, by saying she's hot TWICE within your first few comments (everyguy probably says that) then saying I train everyday. You should have asked her something a bit more interesting, after that for instance "Sound's like you've given up on a passion? Gymnast girls are hot" That way you've turned it to her qualifying to you, you're essentially interested in why she gave up and saying if you still did it you would be hotter - which in turn is a "neg." Also she might turn around and say, yeah I gave up because I was more interested in.... then you have a conversation. Actually to be fair I don't game online, so I only know this would work in person - worth a try though.

Also with the gay comment my default response is "yeah, I'm a lesbian, I like kissing other girls."

Could be a shit test either way brush it off.

Be like " yeh, i am but if i was str8 u would be mine"

Trust

I get asked if I'm gay all the time, I would say by 80% of the sets that I talk to I get asked this. And to be honest, it doesn't hurt it a bit. I give different responses all the time, I tell them yes, no, whatever you want me to be. I just have a laugh. A lot of the time I find that a girl asking if you're gay is almost a good thing as it means that she is interested. If she wasn't interested in you why would she care if you were gay or not.
Long story short I get asked if I'm gay a lot and a lot of those girls end up in my bed.

...it can be both depends on your previous conversation with her or how ti was going so far....if you guys were vibing exchanging cocky funny messages, teasing flirting then she asks if you gay most likely she is attracted/or interested!

However if you had a few lols here and there, she responding with one words sentences not vibing you have more work to do....disqualification always works best, early on - makes thing easier (Mystery's one: Have you ever taken a dump in a golden toilet? It's Devine!), i like negs, teasing and cocky comedy to create attraction, then u can qualify....as i read in the 4EG System (direct game) Let inspiration (or god mode) come to you, you cant chase it, cuz if u do the more it will elude you! Easy way throw in a neg or a cocky funny statement and c if she bites and always listen/watch to what she says and reply in creative and fun ways. Also google cocky comedy examples learn some, get exposed to it as much as you can so you can start creating your own.

One I like to use:

GIRL: Are you gay...you might be? tell me the truth?

PUA: OMG how could you tell? Am the gayest there ever lived/was, every weekend I spend hours on end all oiled up having long continuous stares with strangers and gay sex at the gym! I would invite you but you would probably get turned on!

or

PUA: Yeah, too bad you're not my type! Poor you!

Choose the game you want to run direct or indirect ....if direct have enough inspiration to back it up i.e. cocky comedy, creative, fun replies, upselling learn to twist her words and make it towards ur advantage, most importantly listen to the girl, to her replies, there are clues;

indirect - simillar but it gives you more breathing space as you can follows some Material game i.e. MM or whatever....but also let god mode/inspiration hit;

ABOVE it seems it was direct game, you didnt have enough inspiration, just drive (confidence) it requires balance of both....with texting you could you a disqualifier (part of indirect game) as she is not there infront of you and you dont have to reply right away....not sure of the rules but guess use what ever gets you what you want/ works to your advantage!

If she does that is check mate in your favor, the game is over... she started and she asked for it, whatever happened after that is her fault, so next time a girl asks you that:
Stop being funny, put a serious face, look at her in the eyes, grab her arm, bring her close to you and go for the kiss...

If she pulls away... continue talking as if nothing happened, do not make an issue out of it.
If she doesn't... enjoy

this pretty much

This has never happend with me, but I´d say this: "Dont worry, you are masculine enough for me."

And continue whatever you were doing.

This is a clear shit test,

Women like to test how strong andd secure you are , that's the reason why they are asking you if you are gay....

I normally say yes and I act a bit like a queen and they start laughing... sometimes I also say I am whatver they want me to be... or YES I AM VERY GAY!!! they all laught but never never say no cause is more difficult to get out of a close NO!

Take it as a good sign... and play it back to them....

I absolutely love it when a chick asks me this. It means she's attracted to me and wonders why I'm not into her. It also means she has guts, which I enjoy in a woman. With a smile on your face, respond, "Why don't you bend over and find out?" ha ha It's good for a laugh and hasn't gotten me slapped.

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I work as cabin crew so I hear this a lot from girls. I see it no more then a shit test. I feel the girl is addressing the situation and wants to know exactly what the outcome could be. The two responses I have ended finding have the best results are-
1- respond by saying if I were gay would I do this.. Then kiss her
2- respond by saying the gayest thing I would do is stick my cock in your arse

They both seem to have a good success rate with me

I have been in group when people ask me: are you gay?
Anyways I have allways answered that: No, but my boyfriend is.
Gets tons of laughs every time.