Hi guys, im a good looking guy id say 8/10, im always in gym, girls never used to bat an eyelid when i was younger, these days girls approach me, or grab me on dancefloor, i pull everytime i go out (on dancefloor) but off it im useless, and sober, useless, i dont seem to have any sense of humour, and convos when out seem to be about the same old shit, ive read countless guides online that all say same thing "be cocky and funny" but never explain how, i know how i should act, but my convos run dry.

Ive had gorgeous women in my bed, but next morning im uncomfortable, and have nothing to say,

Ive had one serious relationship in my life when i was 22 for 2 years, and that whole time i never ran out of things to say, always on phone laughing being silly and cheeky or with her, id love to have that feeling again, that freedom and release, and loss of seriousness, but 5 years later, still nervous, think too much borin guy.

Hear to get some help, need to start a new life as i know i have so much potential.

I hear you on this, bro, we all go through ups and downs. You have to recognize that there is no need to feel uncomfortable. Try just living in your head, saying what you want to say, pointing out things that you think are funny without worrying what other people will think. Youd be surprised how much people will laugh if they see you laughing. Not sure this is the best answer, but you have to work at it.

You say when you're sober youre useless, this tells me you rely on alcohol to release your social inhibitions and be yourself. Nothing wrong with that, i do it too, but all alcohol really does is lower your fear/shame factor. Recognize this and try to have no fear/shame in every interaction you have with anyone, male or female.