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Most people can't convey their value through a spontaeneous conversation, through their personality. It's no different than taking a girl to your game, to your concert, to anything that impreseses her. I mean if you want to fail, go ahead and be my guest. ... You decide to give things meaning.
I cannot speak for you, obviously, but I would feel bad about myself if I could not socialize without extensive preparation. But you are right in one way, a man creates meaning by setting his own goals. If your goal is to get an achievement in a computer game, or get laid with every woman you meet, who am I to judge those goals or the methods you employ to meet them. I do not believe that a man who sleeps with many women is more successful in any way than another who sleeps with but few, nor do I believe that routines are more effective than non-scripted interactions, but you are certainly free to think so.
That being said, I don't think everyone approaches routines the way you do. I think that most people get into the PUA scene because they are unhappy and (at least somewhat) socially awkward. They think the solution to their unhappiness is to get laid, and they expect routines can replace the social skills they lack. Pick-up guru's make money of these people and thus have a financial incentive to perpetuate their clients' lack of social skills, which is why guru's (generally) don't teach basic social skills like listening or sharing stories. Instead, they teach 'techniques' like 'DHVing' and 'gambits' that are supposed to bypass a woman's 'defenses'. Of course, these are broad generalizations, and there are plenty of exceptions. However, I think sites like puahate.com arose precisely because of the problem I outline here: aspiring PUAs are looking for a way to fill the void in their lives, but are disappointed when the techniques they are taught can only give them temporary rushes of euphoria, and often not even that.
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