| LONG BUT ENTERTAINING & INTERESTING
16/02/13
Taking the Lead
I’m in another city for reading week. I do not know any PUAs here, but I’ve got some good friends around. I’m to meet up with a good friend of mine who I have known for a long time. My friend is a nice guy…an AFC, but one I don’t mind being around if I’m in this city. Unlike other AFCs, however, he does want to change.
I ask him if he’d like to go out and speak to women with me. He’s enthusiastic! I am to lead tonight. It will be just myself, and my friend. I know I can perform and get his energy up. I know I can perform because it really isn’t difficult for me to do what I’ve been doing any more.
He arrives to where I am staying half an hour early. I warmly greet him. It’s been a while! I get him making small talk to various people I know. I’m getting excited…I’m now in my clothes, and we’re ready to build momentum. First place we go to is a pub, I walk in, and it’s business as usual. I open two sets in here, one mixed of guys and girls, one just guys. The age range here was quite old, but we’re just warming up and getting the social gears in our heads turning. I have a cool conversation with the people I opened, shake all their hands, and go over to my friend. As I walk over the bar maid is starring me out, I smile at her and she smiles and waves. Hah..nice DHV. So, I join my friend. He has a beaming smile on his face:
A: I think you’ve proved yourself!
It’s no thing for me. I get him to open an all guys set. He’s a bit apprehensive, but I make him do it. He opens. He does fine. I walk in to help after about 2 minutes, meet & greet everyone, and we leave.
I stop random people, ask questions etc, just to try and break my friend’s social barriers. I get him to go into some shops and ask for the time. He’s doing well so far. We head to our first venue. It’s a pub, and it’s quiet at the minute – two guys in there, we open them, have a wicked conversation, and they ask if they can join us clubbing later on. I allow them to join me. I don’t have my phone on me, so I just tell them where to be. No girls here, so we go to the next place. It’s a cool pub I used to go to all the time. I open a mixed set of guys and girls. Get all their names, what they study etc, and tell them I’ll meet them back up later after a bit of conversation. One of the girls gives me IOIs. We then go outside to the smoking area, open a two guy set, chat for while & make friends, get their numbers just for connection purposes, and then I go open some all girl sets.
I open one all girl set using a new opener. It’s actually very good and hooked every single girl I tried it on. More on that later. Anyway, open this 3 set, get talking, get all names, sit down, vibe off them for a while. Was interesting because I got IOIs from all 3 girls, and then one girl isolated me while their friends carried on talking. Her friends were happy for her to do that too. I like confidence in a girl, so I chatted to her for a while. Didn’t close as I wasn’t into her physically, but could I have? Bet your ass I could lol. No problem. Chat to my friend for a bit, he buys me a half of Carlsberg. It’s nice, light, cool and refreshing. I don’t mind a half, but I don’t drink when out. I’m a professional and take my work seriously….
On to the next venue, but on the way, I open random groups of girls in the street. I get in front, actually tell them to STOP!, and just go indirect with some direction based crap before getting names etc. Four set was interesting. Older women. All stopped, but one of them was especially keen…She gave me a hug and started talking to me, her friends carried on…what…the…hahah! Said my good byes and went to the bar we wanted to head to actually. I’m open minded but the lady was older than my mother. This has happened a few times to be honest lol.
We go to the bar. I give my friend a bit of theory on psychology, tell him about confident body language, and then I go open a two set of girls sitting at a table. As I walk over I get IOIs from one of the girls. I open using my awesome new opener (it’s just a Mystery opinion opener), hook them both, and take a seat. Chat to them for a while, they were really cool, got their names etc, and went back to my friend. I told him to pretend to text but watch me. He just shows me the text he’s been typing while I was in set…
A: (shows screen) PLAYER
Made me laugh! Again, did not have my phone, but could have easily number closed. I know I keep saying I could have closed etc, but fret not, because I did close multiple times this night – facebook, but shit, I didn’t have my phone. In conversation with my friend he told he that he can really see me being successful:
A: I can honestly see you on 100k. When you’ve got the Lamborghini they’re gonna be all over you.
This was a very sincere compliment, and it felt great. He knows me and where I’m from, so this was lovely to hear. I smiled it off. Had business to do. We go upstairs and hang out, smoking a few in the balcony area. I just vibe off my friend for a bit, before opening a girl who’s on her own. She’s interested, she asks me questions etc. She was a bit shy but I opened her up. Got some IOIs. When I said I had to go back to my friend she actually put her hand out to shake mine. Again, these interactions are becoming so easy for me it is very natural to demonstrate high social value. It’s just falling into place. Jackal does tell me to always close, because closing is something we need to keep strong, but not having my phone with me tonight I had to give it a miss. I won’t speculate . I then had my friend open a two girl set, asking them where was a good place to go out in the city. He goes over, I observe. He does what I tell him to, but he has AFC body language. He leans in to the girls, what’s known as ‘pecking’, and it’s indicative of a man who is keen to keep a girls attention. PUAs stand strong, lean back, and project themselves. We reel girls in. We’re not afraid to walk away, we do not NEED anything from them. Jackal tells me to think I’M the hot one. I tell this to my friend. He’s just happy to have opened random girls, so it’s all good.
We go to another pub. It’s a small one. One the way I open two cute girls. One has a guitar. They both hook, I walk on in front, and they ask me questions…Where I’m heading tonight, what I do etc. I give a little back, begin walking with them. They’re going to the same place I am. They go to the bar and we walk off to find a table. I debrief with my friend, explain some things. Girl begins performing an acoustic set. We go outside to smoke a few fags. I am not a smoker but I do smoke socially on the odd occasion. It’s amusing that now I get offered fags quite a lot from guys who I chat to. I have never bought a pack of cigarettes but I tend to end up smoking like 10 on nights out. Strange. Anyway, I decide to go in and close girl with guitar on stage. There are now a group of 8 or so average chump lads essentially drooling over her -where you from love? You from Uni are ya? You from (insert city)?....ad infinitum. Gawking losers basically gave her an immense ego boost, such is the dynamics of this environment. People may have averse attitudes to PUAs, but the difference is girls actually enjoy talking to us. Our skill in conversation and interaction does excite and give the other person an interesting and romantic experience. What average fools like this do is actually what people should be averse to. It’s not classy in the slightest. Anyway, I didn’t bother going for a number close, rather, I tell her I’ll see her in the club. Her & her friend bid me good bye. They were cool.
My friend wanted to walk and talk for a bit. It actually produced the most interesting set…Opened two girls with the opinion opener, and one girl hooked like no girl I have ever met. She massively opened up, she came right up to me and got really quite psycial. My opener is based on my dress sense, she unbuttoned my blazer, ran her hands over my shirt and had a cheeky feel of my pecs (done very casually and in a classy manner) . I engaged both girls in conversation, asked them a little about themselves, and they asked a fair bit about me which was fun! The other girl threw a neg, and the receptive girl told her to shut up lol!! These girls were really pretty by the way guys. Beautiful, classy looking women. I’m a sucker for confidence. I kept them there for a while before we hugged it out and parted ways. This girl was really, really into me though…She was in work, so a few years older than me most likely, but if I had my phone I would have closed. This experience was interesting because I’ve not met a woman like this. I’m glad to know such confident and elegant creatures exist out there, and I find it pretty interesting that two people can really connect like that if it’s the right place & right time. Cool set.
Me and my friend go to grab a beer for a news agents, we split it as we’re bros and it’s no thing. We also get a quick bit of food, which again we romantically share. We’re warm now so basically talking to everyone. It gets us a bit of free grub! Haha so cool of the owner to do that. We now go to a club…
Been to this club a few times. It’s cool.
We enter, and within minutes I’m opening set after set. Initially the place wasn’t too busy, so I open some girls who work their very platonically. I open a few guys. My friend opened some guys sets well, which I was proud to see, as he would never normally do that. I told him to open one member of staff, and approach anxiety basically killed him. He couldn’t do it, so I told him not to worry about it. I’m not really fussed in truth, but I am enjoying being out with my friend because his enthusiasm and energy is high. If it wasn’t, he wouldn’t be with me. I did not allow him to join me in any sets as he simply isn’t competent yet. We bounced around, smoked some more, and opened more and more. We go upstairs where I talk to the DJ who’s playing the most AMAZING house music! He asks for my name etc and shakes my hand. I’m getting good with guys, too, as Jackal told me I must work both skill sets. I open a four set, weave right in, get IOIs from all girls, they ask to take pictures of me, I allow them. Three of them go to the bathroom, and one girl insists I stay with her. She isolates me…lol. She asks me a few questions, what I do, my age etc, and we just vibe off each other for a while. After 10 mins I get all the girls facebooks and carry on. They were going to another club after, so no point in trying to fuck one of them. When it got busy the dance floor opened. I went into the main room, get dancing – love to move! I get IOIs from here and there. I open a few girls, dance with them, get cock blocked by their friends on both occasions. On the second occasion they kinda ran away, but I walked back up, spread my legs and stood strong. One of them kinda pushed me in a friendly way (and again, left her hands lingering on my pec in a very convenient manner…) and I threw a hard fucking neg. I pulled a repulsed face, jerked my head back and did a ‘get the hell away from me’ hand gesture before dancing my way out. This was quite a good move as it kept my social value high, if not heightened it haha. I am not afraid to bust balls. I don’t take shit from girls. I’m not afraid to walk away from any interaction. I open a three set, two girls are receptive, one is cock blocking hard. Lets call her the mother. One girl was very receptive and let me dance with her, twirled her etc, pulled her in close and talked to her. Could hear the mother in the background saying ‘Don’t!’, so I kinda backed off cause I thought it wasn’t happening, but in truth I could have pushed harder. Moral barriers again…Not good. She was cool though. At least I am getting more comfortable dancing with hot girls. Went into another area, opened some more, went back to the dance floor, and opened some more. I got SO many IOIs here tonight. As I was walking through the dance floor I saw a hell of a lot of preening, hair tosses etc from some very sexy girls. I opened a few of the ones who gave me IOIs, but this leads to our next problem…
Girls who find me very physically attractive are often very nervous. Like, they get adrenal responses. One girl I opened, opened all her friends, and then tried to isolate her. She was very cool and receptive. I said she had nice hair and she was beaming - then told me I had nice hair haha! I saw her later on, noticed her out of the corner of my eye cause she caught a glimpse of me and gave a quick hair toss. I walked right up to her about to open and her body language got so nervous. She edged away slightly and tightened up. If it sounds arrogant, then sue me. I don’t call myself a hot guy at all. I believe it’s confidence and presence which creates this effect. It’s a problem I need to address though, making girls who think I’m hot calm around me. I believe it will just take a lot of trial and error. Any way, on to the main event…
The club we were in hosted a one off blind date event. One guy will be chosen, and three girls. Guy chooses one girl, and they are jetted off to Spain for an all-expenses paid date. As soon as it’s shouted out by the DJ, I’m at the booth. There’s a few other guys standing there, but your boy is chosen. I’m stone cold sober amongst the sea of drunken dudes who needed the nudge from their guys to go up. This is a packed out club, and I’m about to be on the main room in front of 200+ people on the microphone getting a date! I am sheer confidence. The female equivalent is also chosen, and she’s a bundle of nerves. We head upstairs together and are debriefed by the promoter. He gives us the format, tells us we’re to ask our potential dates questions etc. The female blind date contestant was hot and gave me a lot of IOIs…She asked me why I was so confident lol! I told her she looked beautiful and she gave a very interesting preen and applied lip stick. She then asked me a few questions.
Look, guys, I can get interest in clubs now. I’m getting more comfortable. I need need to pull the trigger a few times and I’ll be rolling. I didn’t close her as she we had to prep for the blind date thing. And she was fucking nervous lol.
Anway, I’m on stage. 200+ people in the packed out crowed, me stone cold sober sitting on the contestants seat, and three beautiful girls behind the dividing wall at the centre of the stage. I ask my questions, and I’m given my answers. After all three, I’m to choose a girl. Audience goes crazy for number 2, but I choose number 1. I couldn’t hear any of the answers, but a lad in the audience who I was talking to earlier on said both 1 & 2 were hot. I chose my girl, we meet (she’s fucking shy) and I give her a kiss on the check which will probably be the main photo of the nightclub’s facebook tomorrow. We’re led off and we have a foreign date lined up. As we settle into the crowd, girl is shy as hell. She runs to her friend and is like ‘OMG!’…her friend apologises for her, and reassures me she is shy, and I just walk off.
Confidence is the only thing I ask for. I am a confident man, I want a real woman. Shy girls are basically my biggest turn off. She is fucking sexy though. Anyway, I basically forget about her and start opening other girls. Cause I’ve been on stage and was sheer confidence I now have celebrity status. Guys opening me left right and centre, everyone looking at me, shocking number of IOIs going around. Dance with 2 more girls. Head outside to smoking area and open two more girls. Asked a girl for a light and heard her friend whispers ‘He’s SO hot!’ to her. Talked to them for a bit. Bounced around, open some guys who were chill, then chillaxed with my friend for a while. We’re pretty drained at this point, been socialising since 7PM, so we go to get some food before going back too where I’m staying.
We open other people on our way back. Meet some cool peeps, I get some more IOIs from girls. I did recently get a hair cut and I think it’s working for me. I’m not massively handsome or anything, it’s just a combination of height and presence which helps me. Plenty of better looking men around most likely. I don’t give a shit about that. What was interesting is I was able to do the thing on stage tonight. I can’t believe I had no nerves. This is something which could have been unthinkable for the old me! I was actually asked by a few people how I had the balls to do that sober. The girl who I got a date with was looming about at the end. I was standing talking to my friend, and she was just adjacent to me on the stairs. She was standing on her own, on the stairs, just playing with her hair. This is basically classic preening. She knows there is a high quality male in the vicinity, and it is doing things to her female chemistry. She has now basically come to me, which is good, but this is not enough. She was too shy and did not give me anything to work with when it counted. I purposely walk straight past her on the stairs without even acknowledging her existence. Too bad darling, you’ve missed your chance with a guy who is actually doing to be something one day. I will still consider going on the date to Spain if the promoter gets back to me, but I expect this shy bint will not leave her details with them. I essentially walked away from her the first interaction which was a DHV, and then this second time I think it was basically a neg. This in my opinion was fair enough. Anyway, fuck her. Time waster. More importantly, something else happened.
A cool guy I used to know from school bumped into my at the club after years. He told me I’m the most changed person from our old school he’s met, and that he wishes he went to Uni because of it. I’ve really well and truly began to change my life. I will keep going because I am not anywhere near good enough yet. My skills are going to improve month upon month, and I am not going to give up. I am building so much comfort in clubs. I basically have 0 approach anxiety at day or night any more. Don’t give a flying fuck. I need to get the congruencies down. I am able to dance with different girls etc now. I will soon be kissing as many as I like and then taking some home. I don’t care about doing other things so much any more. I’ve been around enough women to now know I have a lot of catching up to do. I am going to make up the deficit you believe me. I could have pushed harder tonight but I was essentially solo in the club as my friend was not competent enough to join me in sets.
Very eventful night!
Peace & Love
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