So basically been dating this girl for around a month, the other night me and my friends got drunk and went back to the girls house (they are part of our social circle) anyway we got there and the girls was sleeping (they are usually awake till 5am) my mate encouraged me to crash in the girls bed who I have been dating, he said she wouldn't mind... how stupid. (we have slept together and been sleeping in the same bed a few times and on this occasion I actually didn't get in to bed to have sex with her just to sleep). Anyway I must have woke her up as the next morning she wasn't in bed. But since then she won't get in touch, I apologized in the morning and have asked her to ring me. She's not busy and I know she's ignoring me.

So I'm thinking of sending this message later tonight (I've given her a day since last messaging her) I want your guys thoughts on it:

"Hey I've tried to call you to apologize, I totally understand why you're upset, I would be annoyed too. I'm not going to apologize by text as that's wussy. I won't keep making efforts by chasing to apologize either as I am truly sorry. Give me a call, I want to sort this out."

I'm trying to convey I am sorry and you can either choose to accept it and move forward or move on as I'm not going to play the game of making me feel guilty and have me chasing you to apologize.

The thing is I do like this girl, I was going to ask her to be exclusive the very next day but obviously fucked that up... Any thoughts?

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The apology you've drafted there is way over the top. I'm not sure an apology is even appropriate. You haven't wronged her. If you had you'd probably have heard something about it. She might have just felt you were invading her space and felt a bit freaked out about how serious things were getting (i.e. what if I can't get rid of this guy?). But that's just speculation. Who knows what's on her mind? So why put your balls on the line apologising for something when you don't even know for sure if or why she's mad? Surely playing it cool and creating space is the only thing to do at this point, or if you are going to text her just make it fun and ask her to hang out or ask a random question.

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stop being such a fucking pussy.

if youve reached out to her a couple of times and she hasnt got back to you just move on to other girls and wait for her to contact you again. just be happy that you were lucky enough to avoid getting into an exclusive relationship with her.

Tell her P.S. thanks for the finger bang you didn't know about!

Your actions didn't do any damage, your apology is going to fuck you over...DROP IT!

Pretend it did not happen!

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You guys are totally right, just wish I waited longer as I didn't see these replies before sending an apology. She did reply saying she accepted my apology and she had been busy and that I was acting odd when texting her that night (I was totally off my trolley drunk). So I didn't make a big deal out of it and just made a joke out of it then said I'll give her space. Day and a bit went by, no reply off he, she's been on FB a lot so doubt she's busy. I then sent her a text this morning just a short joke and poke at her and asking how's things. She won't reply I'm confident of that.

Lessons learned:

Don't drunk text girls
Be more responsible for my actions
Don't be a pussy
Don't value a girl more than she values you
Be more dominant (this was odd, my dominance just wasn't up to scratch with her, I definitely valued her too much)
Don't invest so much into a girl
Try not to over think things
Just generally be more of a rock
Don't give a fuck
Always have options

Tbh guys this was probably a great wake up call for me, at the end of the day she can't have liked me that much if one night was going to fuck up 4 weeks of dating. I'm moving back to a local city today so this means I can have much greater chance of pulling a girl back to mine I've read and analyzed my flaws so from here on there's going to be a change

She's been nexted

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Mostly correct, good job thinking this through!

But let me point out....
Yes you can do this, hell they even completely understand when you do, just don't EVER apologize for it!

Yeah, it’s that time of the night. The bar is closing, everyone is paired off...except for you. You leave the bar stumbling to your drunk food of choice, when you remember that HB8 that lives just down the block. She hopefully won’t mind a nice 4 AM wake-up call or even better, she’s just getting home too. These booty calls are a surefire way to get laid because any girl that will let an extremely drunk dude come over at 4AM is definitely down in a million different ways.

"Next-ed" does not mean deleted, unless she is so sketchy and horrible you never want to bang her again!

Keep her on a Back Burner,

This is the kind of booty call that every guy dreams of. She likes you enough to fuck you. That has already been established. This is the girl that has no interest in dating you, but likes you enough to let you pound after she, or you, comes home drunk from the bar. There are no strings attached and there will be no “hanging out” the next day. This is such a safe and amazing situation. Keep this girl around. She’s obviously not a slut, otherwise you would be in a long list of other booty calls for her.

Just when you do contact again be a MAN about it, your on the hunt, and it's pussy season!

My two cents.

Heywood

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Great advice, I've definitely put her on the back burner. She actually did end up messaging me back saying she's good and how am I. I haven't messaged her back and most likely won't till end of tonight or tomorrow so that will be almost a day and a half - 2 days without replying. But it that time tbh I have been busy meeting up with friends and went clubbing. Like you said I'll keep her on the back burner but she can make the effort, I'm the prize.

Cheers for the help man.

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